kml, if you're trying to cut and paste, try typing out your post, much more likely it will work. Also, if you don't want to keep posting blanks, before hitting submit, click the "preview Reply" button, then the "Switch to Full Reply Screen", if it shows on the full reply screen it will show when you hit submit.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
I don't see a whole lot of discussion here about attachment types - love avoidants, love addicts or anxious attachment, and secure attachment types. I don't think it played a role in my marriage - I'm a secure attachment type according to my best friend, and I believe that's correct. My ex may have been a narcissist but I think he also fell into the secure attachment group.
I only became aware of these types when trying to figure out the guys I dated right after my divorce, many of whom were classic Love Avoidant types. My friend hypothesizes they are over-represented in our age group as they're much more likely to be single.
I've been re reading some of the writings about it this week as the Love Avoidant FWB I've been seeing occasionally seems to have crawled into his cave for a bit. It's almost exactly the same timeline and time of year as last time I dated him: lovely once a month dates for 4 or 5 months, then drifting out of contact. The first time it happened years ago, I just chalked it up to yet another Avoidant who wasn't sufficiently interested in me and moved on to dating exBF who slightly resembled the FWB and seemed much more available for a relationship.
