On another forum they described their spouse as having the capacity of a stoned weasel which I felt was quite creative and perhaps apt.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
It's just i can't let go of my anger at his selfishness and deception. And at all cheaters/betrayals as well.
Hey JJ. I think it takes time. You have to go through a certain amount of anger before it cools a little.
I don't know at what point it becomes abnormal, like you're just hanging on to things and are a bitter and angry person. But I think if you're within 3-5 years of the loss of your family it is still fairly reasonable.
I used to be angry at XW. Then after a while I felt she was just being led astray by a society that has gone mad and I was angry at society. But anymore it all just seems so inevitable. Things are just going the only way they can go. I might as well be angry at kids for watching youtube on tablets.
This doesn't mean you have to join the herd. I have certain beliefs that put me in a very small minority and I can't change that. All I can do is set good boundaries so I don't set myself up for failure by expecting something I'm not going to get from the world around me. And hopefully I can pass on some of my values to my children. Unless that's a bad thing because maybe it would be easier for them to fit in.
So yes, you can always feel strongly about what you believe, and I do think little by little you'll be able to shrug off what the rest of the world does. I think the time you drop most of the anger is when you're no longer feeling pain and loss. As long as you're hurting it's hard to let go of resentment for the ones you feel hurt you. Once you're feeling as hearty as a horse the anger stops being useful and just fizzles out. So I'd recommend continuing to give voice to your anger, but using that as motivation to continue to reinvest in your new life. Have faith that one day it will be awesome and you'll feel differently. Be well!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
