Getting ready to move forward #2

[petri]

Link to previous: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2777618#Post2777618

[petri]

As we all know selling a house is not something that happens for free. I received a bill from our real estate agent on sunday. Sent a screenshot of it to W and stated that we need to pay this asap.
W: What the f is that? What one time commission? I don't have any f-ing money to pay that!
M: I can't pay it in whole either right now.
W: I didn't meant it like that.
And that was it. The bill was due yesterday and she hasn't transferred any money nor she hasn't replied when I asked her to. Isn't this nice.

[petri]

Today W texted me about how the kids have been outdoors sledding. And that D7 went to her friends house. And how she really doesn't see them since she works late and has to go to dance practice. And that D7 wanted to sleep without nightlight etc.

Why is she texting me these? Do I respond to these in anyway?

[LH19]

P,

You are driving yourself crazy over analyzing these BS texts. Who knows probably to ensure you are still plan B.

No, do not respond.

[petri]

Lh,

This was not about analysing. This was a question about the action. And more of a why the f does she need to inform me about these way. Not in a oh does this mean she is coming back way.

[LH19]

P,

More than likely she is doing it to keep you in the friend zone. If you don’t respond to unactionable texts she will eventually stop.

[petri]

Lh,

That's what I though. And probably the fact the she can't really share the joy which happens with the kids with anyone else. I don't think the OM really gives a s**t about our kids going sledding the whole day or D7 sleeping without her nightlight on. This is one loss for her. Those messages were our daily habit. Now the're gone.

And what about GAL? I got promoted for 4 kyu in karate today. That's a happy thing to gling on.

[Si_07]

Hi Petri, I get those kind of texts too and it’s been over 2 years since BD for me. The real things I get no response to, like bills, house sale, divorce paperwork but will often get these little kind of texts about the kids. As an example, the last one I got went like this:

W: Hello Si. Daughters cold seemed pretty bad this morning, but a day at home has done her a world of good. Snot is no longer so green.

It came on a Friday afternoon when I wouldn’t even see daughter until the following Tuesday..

I didn’t reply to it which is what I normally do with these types of messages.

[petri]

And they just keep coming. It's like she's keeping these things from our M/family and discarding all the rest.

[petri]

Had a great day! Got promoted in karate and went to the movies with the kids. More of this please.