Songs and Stories From The Far Shore - Verse 3

[Gordie]

AndrewP,

I’m sorry for your losses. I had a good friend did recently and it hurt more than I expected. Alas, this too is part of our journey.

Re the d papers. Sorry you are having to wait around for her to do something. I feel your pain.

I’m glad you and s23 are living your own new traditions. I am glad you have companionship at this time. Happy new year!

[SBJ]

AP, sorry on your losses, but you are correct on your success at growing stronger in your own skin. As bad as this trial is for the LBS, it definitely can make us stronger as we wade thru the rough waters. I've seen your posts over the last year and you have definitely changed for the better. You seem to be much more confident and more positive in your mindset.

Happy New Year my friend!

[AndrewP]

Just got an email from my lawyer asking if they could accept service of the divorce papers on my behalf.

I said yes.

It's essentially over now. There is nothing I need to do to allow this to go through.

Hopefully the real healing can start.

[Gordie]

AndrewP,

Tou beat me to it! Turn that page. How does that make you feel?

[AndrewP]

How does that make you feel?

I haven't figured that out yet.

10,736 days ago (math!) I met a short chubby, outgoing woman. She was set up with me as a blind date by a married friend who thought she had been hitting on him. We were inseparable from then until 626 days ago.

Now we are forever apart. I've been expecting this and preparing for this for 666 days but it will still take some time to process.

[Gordie]

So together 27 years and apart for 2?

That’s a long time and a lot to process. Take your time.

Let us know how we can help.

[job]

Andrew,

I am so sorry. You have done everything humanly possible to make the path home a safe one for her. Now, she will go through an euphoric stage and 6 months from now, she may realize that nothing has changed and the divorce decree is nothing more than a piece of paper.

I hope that w/this news, the healing process can begin. Look forward, my friend...life is waiting for you and so is the blank page of the next chapter of your life's book. I can't wait to read what you post as the next chapter.

Take care of yourself.

[bttrfly]

a moment of silence to honor what has passed.
a moment of silence to honor what is now.
a moment of silence to honor what will be.

xoxoxoxo

[Lifes Twists]

AS Job said, Sometime in the near future she will probably wake and realize she isn't as happy as she thought she would be once she got the divorece. You may even get an un solicited text from her asking you if you were happy as if you want this all along.

Unfortunately the road we are on is long and full of lots of turns. This is just one of those many turns your journey and hers will take. No one can say that you will reunite, but we can say that you tried your best and have nothing to be sorry for.

Take some time for yourself. This is as much of a death for you as if you lost someone of some pet. Give yourself some time to feel bad and show your emotions. Don't do this for too long, pick yourself up and keep moving forward on your new path. Let her catch up if she chooses too.

[Westo]

I'm so sorry AP,

You can be very proud of the way you've handled yourself, I know we are all proud of you.

Grieve, cry and then take a big deep breath.

It goes without saying but here's a big fat (((cwtch))) from across the pond.