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#2769662 - 11/30/17 08:22 AM First time posting outside of the "Newcomer" area.
EyeTie Offline
Member

Registered: 01/22/15
Posts: 219
So...It's been a year last September since the divorce hit. My WWW got remarried almost a year to the date of our divorce. I have since moved on, found myself after months of struggling, beat cancer and am more or less happy. My kids are doing great, they are with me a lot, which is good. My current GF and I are doing well and I am learning from past mistakes.

I guess the one question I have is this. For those of you who didn't save your marriage after dealing with a walk-a-way or wayward spouse, do you get treated like the enemy from said ex? My ex will come to my home, hug my girlfriend and then stare daggers at me. She will be the first to point out my faults and the faults of our marriage, but completely gloss over her affairs. We can usually get along long enough for us to have a quick conversation, but anything more escalates quickly, usually with me leaving the situation.

I am really not sure what to do/say, it's almost like she is angry at me because she left. Is this common? Anyone have any advice?
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Me: 36
W: 29
S7 D4
T: 10 (02/2004)
M: 7 (12/2007)
Separation 02/2015
OM confirmed 01/2015,
D mentioned 12/2014

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#2770078 - 12/04/17 07:39 AM Re: First time posting outside of the "Newcomer" area. [Re: EyeTie]
Rick1963 Offline
Member

Registered: 08/11/11
Posts: 2894
Loc: Piney Land
I have heard that they get angry with the LBS once they have a new relationship. I have heat of was reopening court cases years after their divorce. Specially if they broke up with OP. If she is coming to get the kids maybe u can arrange an alternate place for puck up.
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M 53
D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden






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#2770427 - 12/06/17 03:39 PM Re: First time posting outside of the "Newcomer" area. [Re: Rick1963]
EyeTie Offline
Member

Registered: 01/22/15
Posts: 219
It's not so much her picking the kids up, it's everything. She seriously left me when I needed her the most, yet she acts like I was the one who left. Like I was the one who broke her heart. It is incredible.
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Me: 36
W: 29
S7 D4
T: 10 (02/2004)
M: 7 (12/2007)
Separation 02/2015
OM confirmed 01/2015,
D mentioned 12/2014

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#2770459 - 12/07/17 01:07 AM Re: First time posting outside of the "Newcomer" area. [Re: EyeTie]
Btrow Offline
Member

Registered: 03/08/17
Posts: 172
Loc: Somewhere in Europe
Hi EyeTie

I have no experience in that regard, as my XW is nothing but nice and, I think, want to be friends (I'm having none of that, though).

Has she been like that ever since BD or is it a recent turn? Maybe life after divorce wasn't everything she hoped it would be? And how have you acted towards her since BD?

BTW, just curious, but did you post by mistake in the divorced not done forum, or are you "not done"?
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M:46 WXW:40
T:20 M:13
D3,D8,D10
BD:11/12/16
D:12/14/16
OM confirmed 01/20/17

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