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[gw5263]

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[gw5263]

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Little pissed today. Came offf a three day weekend work week and was told by my son that he was mad at my W. asked him why and he said that he wanted to make some fries yesterday but my W went I. The bedroom and locked the door, facetiming OMfor two hours. He said she does this regularly when I am at work and they knock or slip notes under the door. He said yesterday she wouldn't reapond and he tried to make fries himself. Luckily D 14 was home and helped.

I want so so bad to get in her a$& over this. What if something happened? The only boundary I could set would be to cancel the internet, but we get our tv thru it and it would be punishing the kids. To top it off, I believe you can still FaceTime using data. And for those that suggest it, I can't throw her out because her name is on the deed and in my state the only way to do this is if there is domestic violence. I will never go down that road.
I went all weekend not speaking to her unless it was about the kids because she did the same thing Thursday. Any suggestions or ideas? I have been detaching as directed, and GAL in between shifts. I don't follow on social media anymore and I try to get out as much as I can with work friends.

[doodler]

The bedroom and locked the door, facetiming OMfor two hours. He said she does this regularly when I am at work and they knock or slip notes under the door. He said yesterday she wouldn't reapond and he tried to make fries himself. Luckily D 14 was home and helped.

I want so so bad to get in her a$& over this.

gw5263,

I think the right thing to do for your children's sake is to man-up and tell your wife that her behavior is unacceptable. If she doesn't shape up, then she can ship out. That seems like a perfectly normal and reasonable response to her behavior. No?

[gw5263]

Need a little help. Confronted my W about the facetiming and she denied it, even went as far as to say S was lying. Then to top it all off, I got in the master bedroom closet to get my metal detector out ( one of my new GAL activities I enjoy)while moving the detector , it caught on a box and a small bag fell and the contents hit the deck. Sex toys, several. One life size rubber penis a small vibratory, and arousal gels. W saidafriend got them for her as a gag, howeverthenpacking alip withitnhad her name on it as sold to. Apparently these FaceTime sessions have become sex shows. She is ignoring the kids to get herself off whilenthat POS watches. In addition to all that, S advisedmethatmy D sometimes hangs out in the room( not during the sex shows) while W and OM has aconersation

I have told her not to contact him while in the house, no text calls or FaceTime. I can’t kill the internet because we get our tv that way and it would punish the kids. Can’t put her out and she won’t willingly leave. Any thoughts or ideas? I’m getting to the point that I don’t care anymore and wouldn’t be too bothered if she ran off.ahe has no concern for anything or anyone other than herself and the POS. It doesn’t bother her that due to her actions, this could be the last thanksgiving and Christmas we have as a family. In fact I think she and he may actually be planning a visit by OM for Christmas break. I need not confirm that because his visit would not go as planned.... just extremely frustrated and angry right now....

[Gordie]

GW,

You came here because you wanted to bust your d. Have you read the book? MWD addresses the end games and only you know if you are there. I never thought I’d get there but my W’s antics with OM2 became too much and I did.

Time for an ultimatum (only if you mean it and can follow through with it)?

W, I can no longer live like this for my sake and for the sake of the children. If you do not end your relationship with OM immediately, then I am going to see my L and file for D. This is an ultimatum not a discussion. See what she does (not what she says) and act accordingly.

[gw5263]

Well, I think I found a solution. After sleeping on it, I realize I can just change the Wi-Fi access password. And not give it to her, that way she can’t access FaceTime in the house and the kids can still watch TV

[Tread]

GW,

You need to toss all that sh*t you found in the trash. Them tell her that getting off to OM in yiur home like that ain't happening. Next get a lawyer. If things have gotten this bad, then they are bound to get worsr. And you already mentioned her potential holidays plans with OM. Your kids are watching you and how they deal with their future R will be based on how you handle this sitch.

[Gordie]

But what does this accomplish? The jugular of your M is gushing and this is a band aid.

[Maika]

That's not going to solve anything. She can go get Wi-Fi somewhere else.

[gw5263]

She may very well be able to get the WiFi elsewhere but she won’t harbit aailanke at the house. Any ideas are welcome. This is one of my boundaries, right or wrong. I told her not to contact the OM in our home, and especially not I. Front of our children. Is the thebwrong approach to take? Seriously, I have no idea what to do about this.