My W trying walking throughout the house today in this see through night gown that she bought yesterday. She was wearing it as I suggested she pack and leave. Wore it right out the door with her stuff. Pretty sure that my W wasn't expecting that this morning when she put it on. Joseph stay strong and avoid the bait.
Thanks all.....I didn't take it!!!! I did not bring up our R or say she looked good or anything.....just acted normal and got out. Crazy!! I guess when u don't pursue and they start to wonder a little you will get these tests. I assume there will probably be more to come.
W just sent me an email asking me if she could take our girls on Thurs night instead of Wed night this week. Last week she wanted to trade the same night (said she was going out with GF's for their last summer night together, they are all teachers) and offered to take them on Fri and Sat. Since it was a trade I agreed.
During the summer I always had them on Wed nights so it appears she has standing mid-week plans since she is asking again (it might be a coincidence though since she originally agreed to take them this Wed unless she forgot). I always assumed she was having an affair with a married man just a hunch since she was so quick to move out of the house but has not been eager to force a D. With that said maybe Wed evenings was their date night and he told his W he was working late and is meeting my W etc. Everything in mind wants to call her out and ask her what's going on but I know I can't correct?
Just my own personal satisfaction and to confirm my suspicions since I have not snooped since she moved out. I also know that if I ask it would considered as pursuing and then I would really question myself on whether or not I have dropped the rope and detached. Because if that is the case then I really shouldn't care.
On the flip side if I did ask and she said "yes" then I would have to be prepared to respond with a consequence to what I am not willing accept. Since we are already S the only response I would have is to file for D myself.
Does all the make sense? I guess I am kind of having a weak moment.
I guess you read conflicting statements about busting up the A vs letting it run it's course.
Well I can tell you right now that you haven't dropped the rope. I can also tell you that you are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to early in the process for you to drop the rope.
Would your wife being in an A be a deal breaker for you? Was that communicated prior to the separation?
IMO due to the quick separation it is more then likely your wife is at least in an EA.
Things happened so quickly we never discussed what would happen during our separation period. She wanted a D, moved out and hasn't brought it up since and I don't discuss it with her. I have no clue why she is waiting around and is not pushing forward with it. I just leave her alone and only talk to her about the kid stuff, don't ask where she is going/doing etc. so in that regard I have set her free.
On the A part I originally thought I could deal with it.....but as I get my confidence back, GAL, gym etc. I am starting to lean the other way. I guess I need to figure that part out in my head because as this thing goes on her being with OM is going to happen if it has not already. I guess in my mind I always knew something was going on but since she was not flaunting it/rubbing it in my face and we are S I guess I tried to rationalize it in my mind. I didn't necessarily feel a level of disrespect. Does that make sense?
