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Coconut,

What I mean is the day of the H looking out for her is over. Meaning if ahe falls and injures herself, then don't call me. Not trying to be accused of following her around. She can call all those other people who don't do squat for her. W needs to do her own work to make this happen, but I will be right behind her questioning every decision, not trusting a thing that comes out of her mouth. Plus I'll get things looked at by a separate lawyer.

If she moves out, then W will see an eclipse. I know that she already notices the changes. W wants to be stubborn at this point, so I will continue to GAL and 180. Yesterday I noticed my abs starting to return. This workingout stuff is paying off. 😁 Her health internal and external continues to decline, which is sad to see but no longer my problem.


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Tread, you still sound pretty angry with W, and I totally get it. Anger and frustration are hard to avoid in these situations. I would just caution to step back and take a deep breath before rushing the D through though. If you can center yourself and think calmly and rationally and you still want D, then by all means proceed. But I think right now your decisions are emotionally based. Very sorry you're going through this, I know sometimes just getting it over with seems to be the answer but there's no quick and easy solution.


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I get what your saying. Not planning on filing, but I will push her in that direction if that is what she wants. Not putting my life on hold any longer for someone claiming they want to leave. Especially with the EA going on. W isn't looking to appealing right now. So unless she tells me something different, then there is no reason for her to be around trying to keep up appearances.


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Tread,

If you're really angry with your wife, then one thing you can do is get a permanent marker and draw a mustache on her face while she's sleeping. I've never done it myself, but I did fantasize about doing it. I think it could even be DB, maybe; I don't really know. Regardless, if you decide to do that, let us know how it turns out. If it goes well, then maybe you could inspire others to do the same.

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Doodler - an idea of genius, if my H was still here I'd do the fake spectacles too!


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W hair has been thinning issues for years. Half tempted to cut off some of the little she has on her head.


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Snip snip wink


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(5 months of in-house separation hell)
W moved out:1-6-18
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You all should be ashamed of yourselves and go stand in the corner! While I look for my permanent marker smile


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😔 *slowly shuffles off into the corner*


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Talked with the lawyer today. Felt good about things he had to said. Also mentioned that W had no position to get outline. If she did try to get difficult, lawyer stated that I had enough proof of infidelity to get W phone subpoena, revealing everything she has been up to. Claimed he he could get a court order to have OM testify against W as well. Almost hope tjat it goes that way just so I can see OM turn against W on the stand. Not to mention he would have to explain to his W why he has to come to anither state. May even had the dudes W was kissing on to the list as well.

Felt slightly bad at first at the suggestion. But I have been warning my W for months that her actions would have consequences. And she scoffed at those warnings. Now the chickens potentially have come home to roost. I can almost see WW tears already.


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