Boston Dad Need of Help Part 2

[Teppo]

Let me correct my last sentence: I'm thinking more about my post-D life instead of trying/hoping for reconciliation. Is this a normal feeling associated with detaching?

[TBSakaJ9]

It feels that way to me......I find myself caring less and less. The pain and emotions are less intense and I also feel myself feeling sorry for her and what she has walked away from.

[Teppo]

It feels that way to me......I find myself caring less and less. The pain and emotions are less intense and I also feel myself feeling sorry for her and what she has walked away from.

Yes! Exactly! I too am starting to feel sorry for her. Also, I think she's going to be shocked once my attorney gets involved. Right now my W thinks I can't afford a L and that I will accept all her demands.

[Teppo]

It's been nearly a week and a half since she said she filed, yet no papers.

[TBSakaJ9]

My W told me on memorial day she wanted a D.......still nothing yet......at this point in time I really don't give a crap.

[Teppo]

Jeez! Have you asked her what's her delay, or do you not want to push the topic?

[TBSakaJ9]

I was told to not push the topic by folks on this board and me DB coach unless I wanted one. Although she told me a week ago it was going to happen. Just following the motto of believe nothing they say and only 50% of what they do.

[Teppo]

Ain't that the truth.

[TBSakaJ9]

So at this point I don't call her, text her or do anything else unless it is related to the pick up/transfer of our children. When that happens it is short, exchange a few pleasantries and off I go. I just make sure that I look good when I see her and am upbeat. At this time she has shown no interest in having anything to do with me. The only comment she has made is that my new haircut makes me look younger. No comment on my weight loss, new clothes or anything. Everyone tells me it is going to take time and to hang in there. I do feel that I am about 85 to 90% detached at this time. So I know I have some more work to do.

[Teppo]

This morning I woke from a bad dream involving my W and the OM. I dreamt that they were taking a shower together and the OM poked his head from the curtain to look at me. God, I hope these don't become more frequent.