She noticed the change, so it's a start. It will all come together enough. Which reminds me, I need to apply Just for Men on this beard of mine tonight. 😂
Good Morning everyone, wife texted me this morning and told me to text when I get to her apt or go on in if the gate was open. Gate was open so I went on in, knocked and she opened. My girls wanted to show me something they made yesterday with their mom so I went on in. Spent about 5 min in the apartment looking at what they made and had on general conversation with my wife.
Yesterday evening she texted me and asked if I could watch the girls last night and tonight (She said she needed a break......I bet it is kinda rough with an 8 and 6 yr old in a 1000 sq ft apt). I told her I could do it tonight because I had plans (I kept it general, no details). I told her I could on Thursday that I could just take them to the golf course with me. We did not discuss tonight this morning but I did offer to take them on Thursday which she declined, said we would just keep it the same. I said "ok", see ya later and out the door I went. I did not hang around, linger, chat or anything.
I felt she was a little softer this morning than yday......and I am sure she really wants a break but caught herself and changed her mind so she wouldn't show weakness.
I showed up confident with my new haircut, new shirt and my Raybands......it felt good. Now I will have NC until tomorrow afternoon when I get the girls.
Smokey, you sure have a lot of interactions with her. I understand you have to move the kids back and forth, but it's going to be hard for you to detach when you see her so much, and she's never going to learn to miss you. See if maybe you can cut back on that, and when you do go over maybe just drop the kids off at the door and leave instead of lingering.
Also, nearly every post you make is about your latest interaction with W. Maybe focus more on your GAL, tell us what you're doing away from W, things you're working on, what your goals are.
Smokey, been following your sitch. Just curious, is your W 43 or 53? Your signature says M: 44, W: 53. Elsewhere you've said she is 43. Typo?
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
I think I just got temp checked by the W.....I just got a random text message of our D's at the mall. Now, maybe she was just being nice however for someone wanting a D it seems not necessary. Either way I responded like 20 mins later......Looks like the girls are having fun, thanks for the pic.
I have trivia night tonight so I am looking forward to some GAL activities. I also went and bought a couple of new shirts over lunch. Look good, feel good, DB good!!
Smokey, your GAL sounds great, keep it up! When we come here we tend to talk about our sitch, so often our life sounds more spouse-centric than it really is, which is no doubt the case with you. Sounds like you're on the right track, well done
Thanks....man I am trying!!!! W just sent me another pic of our D's via text......I am not going to respond to this one. Again maybe she is just being nice but there is no reason for it. I am gone all weekend and don't hear from her once. I come back and it is text message, pic city. I think it is my new hair!
Thanks....man I am trying!!!! W just sent me another pic of our D's via text......I am not going to respond to this one. Again maybe she is just being nice but there is no reason for it. I am gone all weekend and don't hear from her once. I come back and it is text message, pic city. I think it is my new hair!
SmokeyD,
She is temperature checking you.
Have fun at trivia night, excellent GAL!
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