Westo, so thrilled to hear that you have some options. Looks like maybe your H was waiting for a way to get back involved. I'm hoping he is able to continue his efforts for your sake and those of your D and GK.
Hi Westo, glad to hear about the treatment options and it must be a relief to know you have the 'bog standard' variety too..
It is good that your H stepped up to the plate in your time of crisis. I would add a note of caution to what previous posters have said. It may be the start of a slow return. Equally, he may dip in and dip out again. The best advice I can give is to be perfectly willing to live your own life as you have been. And if you want to allow him a bit of space in it from time to time, then you can..
But, do keep your expectations low and then if he does 'dip out' again, it is easier to accept that...
Good luck with your treatment, whatever option you decide to go with..
Xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Yes, it's good news to have a 'bog standard' breast cancer. I initially thought mastectomy, but I'm now going with a lumpectomy.
I am so over H, I can't get over it. D thinks he comes across as rather pathetic, so she has changed her attitude from wanting him back with me to not!
Time will tell....I have no expectations from him, but I know (in my heart) he will not let our little GD down and that's all I care about.
He has offered to take me to radio therapy a few days a week, which I thanked him for.
I am telling you, he has a new found respect for me. Whatever happens, that is what I'm most proud of.
What did someone say on here (maybe Jack) "you are the flower, the OW/OM. is the weed".
Breast care nurse came today. I have pre assessment next Wednesday including:
Chest X-ray, abdominal ultrasound and bloods. Thursday, bone scan. Following Monday (day before op) an injection into my breast of radio active stuff to the lymph nodes.
They will then use a Geiger counter when in surgery to see how many need to be removed.
I have been assured that because my lump was discovered through screening, even if I have to have chemo (which she doesn't think I will need) I have a 97% chance of leading a full life, although I will have to have radio therapy for three weeks and drugs for five years.
I am very glad to hear your good news! The most important person in all of this is YOU! Take care of yourself and follow your doctor's orders to the letter "T".
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
They will then use a Geiger counter when in surgery
Geiger Counter? You must be pretty hot stuff then
Great news Westo - so happy that you have a good prognosis.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Yes I'm extremely lucky and my consultant said I will receive the best possible care this country has to offer....world renowned.
He was the actual doctor that made the study purely on women who were screened through Breast Test Wales.
H emailed me this morning asking how it went with the nurse's visit yesterday and hoped she had provided me with enough info in order to make the right decision for me.
If I had time for a chat tomorrow when he picks up GD (she's so excited) we can talk about it then.
I am being very wary, don't worry! I will take each day at a time and leave it to him to make as little or more contact. I'm only interested in our GD.
I won't put myself through any stress over him....
I'm glad to read this Westo. Sounds like it is all perfectly treatable and plans are being put into place.
As Job says - do prioritise yourself and if you choose to make a little room for your H - only do so as long as it isn't at your own expense...put you first!!
Good luck with everything xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I certainly indend to, I let H come with us earlier in the week because I felt he needed to......we shall see what happens but I am keeping my expectations to zero.
