Westo - Today is probably a tough day for you. I hope you are doing ok.
Time does give us perspective but it also blurs and distorts. I read a lot of histories and biographies - yes - I'm just that exciting. One thing I know is that even professional historians often differ in their interpretation of the same events.
One of the reasons I came here to this place was to try to "understand" and in the process drove myself mad try to make sense of the senseless. If you don't believe me, feel free to read some of my earlier threads. It took me a very long time to learn that I will never understand what happened and you may not either. It doesn't stop us thinking about the past and the "what if", but the past, just like the future are foreign lands. We live here in the present and it is a great gift.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Hey Westo! Oh the kiss on the end of a text is just so everything here in the UK!
Mmm, I'm not sure about your H and why he has not responded to you and missed a kiss off D's text. My H seems to passively aggressively answer my texts hours and hours later so I am used to it now but if this is different behaviour for your H maybe he is away for his birthday or there is trouble in paradise? Thing is we will never know the reason but I think my H does it to not give me any hope and remind me that I am not important to him anymore.
I don't think it is worth analysing it. You were gracious enough to wish him for his birthday even though he has broken your heart so you should be proud that you have taken the higher ground.
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Well, I've come such a long way from a year ago. The last thing on my mind then was the lawns mowed, painting, cleaning etc.
This year, I pay gardeners to mow the grass, I did try it myself, but it took me a good two hours and knackered my back for days, preventing me from my daily walk.....not an option!
So, I've just finished the first coat on the kitchen cabinets (h last did it five years ago) and I've painted the outside sills and ornamental balls, to match next doors 🙄
One day, H will have to call and while he may not notice these things initially, at least they won't stand out as not being done.
D has decided that she is going to text him....she is upset that he sees the other grandchildren, but not hers.
I've told her to do whatever she wants but not to mention me.
What a difference a year makes....can I get a high five?
Very well done! I'm sure that when you are finished your projects, everything will look very nice. You have a lot to be proud of because you've come a long way. BTW, your h may have already come by and didn't stop in. They are curious people and yes, it will notice all of the changes that you've made. He may not say anything, but he will have noticed.
As for your D, you gave her the right advice, i.e., do what she feels she needs to do.
Keep up the good work!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
