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I agree with Sage - CHL was trying to figure out what you wanted, and you weren't telling him at ALL. I can understand why he swore, it would drive me up the wall too.

There was some good communication later in the conversation, though. Good job on that!


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I think the stress of not knowing anything about the settlement and the d getting closer is really stressing me out.


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I really want to go home to my cave NOW! I have another hour here.

I just am not sure how I'm going to get through the next two weeks.

Hopefully finishing the taxes tonight I will at least start sleeping better again. I am soooo tired today.


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Pam,

I am sorry you are struggling at the moment.

For me, it was a matter of focusing on the next step up, only.

Looking at the big picture was too scary for me.

Remember the analogy of the huge staircase, in a dark room. The light of your candle only illuminates the next step up?

Focus on that next step up.

It's not easy and it's not fun.

But the reward is soooo worth it.

We are here for you Pam.

Hugs.


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Thank you PIB,

I guess I need to shine the light around and look for the next step, because right now I don't know what it is even.


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Ok,

I'll bite.

(PiB does her best imitation of Michele)

If a miracle were to happen and you woke up tommorow and you were happy...what would you be doing different?


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LOL

I will have to give it some thought. It is not an easy question because I'm sure you mean me personaly and nothing involving my marriage. Although I think that is the problem I have is I have no idea what to do to be happy.


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(PiB nudges you gently)

Remember that book I keep telling you to write?

"The care and feeding of Pam"

I would love for you to start making a list of all the things that bring you happiness.

I know 3 things that can go at the top of the list:

1> Meditation
2> Cuddling with Pups
3> Talking to friends.

Care to continue it?

Please take this list and pin it up on a wall somewhere.

As you try new things, you can add to it.

Then whenever you are in a funk, and your mind is foggy, you can just go look at the list and pick something to do.

Even if you don't want to do, chances are, by the time you finish doing it, you'll feel better.

So...what's number 4?

Hugs.


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You did the easy ones!

I'll have to think on it.


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I would love to get some feedback on this thread:

Little things that boost the PMA

Hugs!


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