As I wrote in my letter to her - we "are" separated - we just don't have that piece of paper and we are no longer married - we just don't have a piece of paper that says that we're not. I'm in no rush to get married again right now so this paperwork makes no real difference.
This is pretty much where I have been for some time. My MLCr was hell bent on rushing through to get divorced and once I was openly accepting the idea it suprised her and she began dragging her feet. I too was done riding on the merry-go-round and at present I honestly view D and MLC as something they may very well need to process through the fog.
So I sit here typing this I have been through 3 different mediation attempts, 2 online divorce attempts (Between 2014-2016), was served finally be her lawyer back in Sept 16 and have not heard a peep as of yet. My sitch may be different as I probably stand to finacially benefit if the D were to go through, its not enough to prompt me to pursue it nor do I feel an urge to ... like you said I am in no rush to be married again either .... to the MLCr nor anyone else.
I will pass this on to you .... realize she is in crisis and protect yourself now, and for later. This thing takes time and they cycle in and out as do the LBS, difference is we simply have the tools to handle this. I speak often with a group of MLC-LBh's and there is some crazy SMH stuff that happens, talking custody of cats crazy. So just make sure you are thorough as I know you will be by reading your posts. Buckle up it will be a bumpy poorly paved road
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
