Is he Donald trump? If not than unwelcomed touching is not ok
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
One way is to tell him straight up: "I appreciate and enjoyed the hug in the moment but, at this time, I'm not ready or comfortable for it."
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
Okay, so I definitely need to lay down some boundaries.
I have been letting his visits happen in our family home even though he doesn't live here anymore. He does some household stuff when he is here sometimes like taking out the garbage, etc. A couple of weekends ago, he did my laundry which I thought was odd(He has NEVER done laundry)but whatever. Tonight, after the trick or treaters had slowed, I went in my bedroom to get changed. Wet towel on the bed. My undies drawer open. He, apparently, had a shower, then dug through my drawer, and threw his wet towel on my bed?
I don't want to start the process with a lawyer because I don't quite want to give him the nudge in that direction yet but how the heck am I supposed to lay down some ground rules?
"WH, as it stands we are separated. It's important that we both take this time to figure out what we both want. With that being said, it Is not appropriate or comfortable for me for you to treat this house as your home. I'm asking you to respect that this is where I live and when you are here you are only visiting which means that my bedroom is off limits along with any/all belongings in general. I respect your privacy and boundaries and expect you to do the same. If you can't adhere to this then the next step is to no longer allow you to be here."
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
I have no idea if any of this stuff I am doing is working. I feel better and more stable so I guess that means it is working. I'm finding it easier not to reach out to him and he is reaching out to me. Today, he messaged and asked if he could put my winter tires on my car for me. Don't really know what to say. The gesture is thoughtful but part of me feels like he is just trying to keep a foot in the door just in case whatever he is doing doesn't work out.
MC is scheduled for this Thursday at his request. I am wanting to cancel. He needs to be doing some work on myself and I need to continue working on me.
Support group tonight! Going to go to my first yoga class this week too! Yay me!
