Despite the recent warming ... or maybe because I think it maybe lulling me into an emotionally complacent place, all the while my W still has her heart set on a divorce ... I think I need to start preparing myself for a divorce in a more methodical way. Not just fill out the DIY divorce paperwork itself... go further: I need to spend a lot of time preparing mentally and emotionally how to deal with the loss for myself, and witnessing and helping my kids experience the loss. Probably pick up some books on helping kids through a divorce. Maybe there are some online forums the focus on divorce and kids. I also need to take concrete steps for finding and establishing a new house/condo/whatever.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
Gump. I'm sorry about your situation but preparing is a good thing to do. Having the knowledge can lessen worry and anxiety. Hang in there.
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
FG -- preparing doesn't make a D any more likely and probably would help you rest at least a little bit easier on several fronts. Hang in there, man -- you're an inspiration in terms of how you keep your focus in the right places.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
Hang in there, what has she done to move the D forward? If she's stalled then just let time be your friend.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
Despite the recent warming ... or maybe because I think it maybe lulling me into an emotionally complacent place, all the while my W still has her heart set on a divorce ... I think I need to start preparing myself for a divorce in a more methodical way. Not just fill out the DIY divorce paperwork itself... go further: I need to spend a lot of time preparing mentally and emotionally how to deal with the loss for myself, and witnessing and helping my kids experience the loss. Probably pick up some books on helping kids through a divorce. Maybe there are some online forums the focus on divorce and kids. I also need to take concrete steps for finding and establishing a new house/condo/whatever.
And you need to take care of yourself FG. Always prepare for the next move. A good basketball coach always gives his team an answer for anything they might see. That gives them an opportunity to be successful.
Anticipate anything that can happen. Prepare for it.
Be you. You can handle this.
Strength and Honor.
Mules
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
And you need to take care of yourself FG. Always prepare for the next move. A good basketball coach always gives his team an answer for anything they might see. That gives them an opportunity to be successful.
Anticipate anything that can happen. Prepare for it.
Be you. You can handle this.
Strength and Honor.
what mules said.
Get those books if you feel you need to. It's good to be prepared. Get some new music for yourself. I am still exploring mudcrutch off your inadvertent recommendation. Be well. I wish you sleep.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
Gump -- please let me know if you stumble upon any good books for helping kids through divorce.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
