Wow Feyth! I got in shape just reading about your run!
Keep on going-we are all cheering you on!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
Thank you all!!! You all were on my mind during that insanely long run! I'll have to think of something good for the next stretch goal. I'm open to suggestions
Oyyyyyy... I'm hurting today! I keep reminding myself that anything is possible with hard work and determination. Anything! There's a quote that I love right now, "Maybe it won't work out. But maybe seeing if it does will be the best adventure ever." This about sums this whole experience up, don't ya think?
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
Funny how its always the SECOND day after a strenuous event that you hurt the most; right after you've decided "hey, I'm not too bad!" on the first day after, lol! Not that I've ever done a marathon (plus 5 extra miles). So next...foreign country, backpack, mountains...right? Get that passport ready! Or, ULTRA MARATHON! Notice I'm not offering to join you, but I'll come cheer you on. Totally. So proud of you, Feyth! You have really pushed yourself and see what you've accomplished? What many would have thought not possible, especially with all that is going on in your life. But you get to see what YOU are made of...tough stuff! You aren't done baking either, apparently. You go, girl! The world is yours for the taking. Just toss the map and grab a journal.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
Just got back from a meeting with my divorce attorney. Tell me again why it's so easy to get divorced?!?! I hate this. I live in a no fault state so it's just "whatever"... Like something you order off a menu. "Yes, I'd like one divorce please with a side of spousal support. thanks!" No big deal.
Fortunately, I really like my lawyer and he has put my mind at ease over a couple things. Only time will tell how this will pan out.
.....and the world spins madly on.
Hope everyone is having a good day!
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
It's only business. It's only business. It's only business.
Just breathe.
H got served with my response to the dissolution. All I can say is thank god I didn't file first because I couldn't live with myself knowing that I was the one to put this all in motion. Legal jargon just intimidates me.... It's so terse and heartless. But that's the point right?
I'm hiding in my office trying to fight back some tears.... Ugh. It's really come to this.
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
Feyth, I wish I was around to give you a big hug. I truly believe that even though we are in a way mentally prepared for it, it's when things become concrete ( like being served) that it really hit us. I have been reading a lot of spiritual books lately, and I'm convinced that a partner is here to teach us something. What I don't know yet, but I'm sure all will be revealed in time.
You have a great GAL and you are so strong. Feel what you are feeling, cry if you must but each time you do it, it's another of pain leaving you.
((Feyth)) just sending you hugs across the water. D is horrible and I don't understand how our S feel compelled to go full steam ahead with everything but I suppose thats the mind of the MLC-er....
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Hi Feyth, big hugs from me too. It isn't easy going through the exchanges that accompany divorce proceedings. I can remember being unsettled when things arrived and I had to face them and look at them and respond. What I did find too is that things would only unsettle me for a little while - just that day, or a couple of days. Like you, I had many other things going on and I would get involved in them again and the D process would fade a little. And then I would deal with the next thing that came in and so on.
It isn't nice, but it does have to be done and I think the main thing to do is aim to travel this path in a way that sits well with you. For me I look back and I don't have significant regrets about my part in the D process and I'm glad that's the case.
I hope tomorrow is a better day for you Sweetie xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
