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maybs #2701466 09/02/16 06:05 AM
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Maybe just go back and say 'about what?' and if she says the mediation date maybe say 'oh sorry, I thought that was a rhetorical question?' Or you could just ignore it. Why should you be helping to clarify something you don't want! Does she realise how much this is hurting you? Also you could say 'I really don't want to talk about it that's why I didn't respond. Just letting it all sink in'. This so hard isn't it!

I'm sure you will get clearer direction from one of the vets on here, I can barely deal with an Invitation from H to go to lunch with D on Saturday!!


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H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Coly23 #2701469 09/02/16 06:08 AM
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I would think you should ignore but I also would let the vets weigh in..... Def temp checking


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EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016
D: Feb 2017

hawker #2701472 09/02/16 06:18 AM
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Thanks guys. So far I haven't responded.

Coly - I'm not even sure what I would do if my W invited me to lunch...I don't even see a world where that would happen at this point. I don't think she's thought about hurting me. Not in any real concrete way, because I don't think my W has fully realized the consequences of the A and D.

Hawk - I figured it was just a reiteration of the same temp check she did yesterday.

Still waiting for some more guidance on here from some vets...


W:32 M:26
T:5 yrs M: 3 yr
BD: JUN 2016
W Moved out: early JUL 2016
W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016
EA: 06/16?
PA: 07/16
Moved in w/ ow: 07/16
D final: 10/16
maybs #2701493 09/02/16 07:05 AM
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I'm no vet but W is clearly looking for something. maybe "yeah" in like 12 hours though. maybe...


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T: 6 M: 2
SD: 10
BD: 04/2016
PS: 04/2016
W officially "seeing" someone 09/2016
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cheesyt #2701531 09/02/16 08:48 AM
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I'm still struggling with whether or not I want to respond at all. Like cheesy said it's just a yes or no.

Since then she has texted me again twice because she thought she messed up making her car payment and that she had accidentally made it from my account instead of hers. But then she figured that out.

Still waiting for those vets out there.


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BD: JUN 2016
W Moved out: early JUL 2016
W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016
EA: 06/16?
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maybs #2701568 09/02/16 10:55 AM
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Lately I keep finding myself going back to wondering if my W is having an MLC or is she a WW...

I can't seem to figure it out.

Does anyone else know?????


W:32 M:26
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BD: JUN 2016
W Moved out: early JUL 2016
W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016
EA: 06/16?
PA: 07/16
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maybs #2701574 09/02/16 11:04 AM
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Maybs,

I can assure you that your W is just simply overwhelmed with her health issues, life, etc that she just walked away. It is definitely not MLC and I can say this as a former MLCer myself.

Stay the course and continue on your own DB path.

You're going in the right direction, sweetie.

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Originally Posted By: Wonka
Maybs,

I can assure you that your W is just simply overwhelmed with her health issues, life, etc that she just walked away. It is definitely not MLC and I can say this as a former MLCer myself.

Stay the course and continue on your own DB path.

You're going in the right direction, sweetie.



Thanks Wonka!

I'm glad you know what direction I'm going because I sure do not.


W:32 M:26
T:5 yrs M: 3 yr
BD: JUN 2016
W Moved out: early JUL 2016
W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016
EA: 06/16?
PA: 07/16
Moved in w/ ow: 07/16
D final: 10/16
maybs #2701593 09/02/16 12:04 PM
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Yep, I agree with Wonka...my W has health issues as well, life issues and she just walked away...keep it up! smile


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hawker #2701765 09/03/16 10:08 AM
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Thanks guys!

Nothing new really to report. Just trying to relax and enjoy my long weekend. Might go out for a walk/run later. Just watching movies and napping and relaxing and it's glorious! Giving my puppies some much deserved attention and some cleaning and laundry are in the works...


W:32 M:26
T:5 yrs M: 3 yr
BD: JUN 2016
W Moved out: early JUL 2016
W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016
EA: 06/16?
PA: 07/16
Moved in w/ ow: 07/16
D final: 10/16
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