Cheesy, they are absolutely temp checks. It's time for you to step up and take control. Don't let her tell you what or when or why. You make the decisions and tell her. She's the one that wants out, so let her see what she's missing -- someone who is strong and competent and perfectly capable of moving on and having a great life without her.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
NYgal, thanks for the encouraging words and the confirmation.
update - I changed my log in for the cc I paid for coaching with, well got an email not too long ago that my acct was locked out. W was checking it and ran into a different password. W didn't ask and I'm not saying anything about the acct being locked out.
I hope she doesn't need to check the account for anything, so she never has to see that charge!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
She's for sure just trying to figure out what you've been up to.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
Need advice. previously when my W "didn't know" and was "Confused" we talked, I told her we could remain friends while she decided M or D, in last week's email she made it clear it was time to move on, and she told me I was showing her I was incapable of being "friends" thus finalizing her decision.
spoke to a DB coach, the book, and from being on here, I went dim.
Had a few temp checks, bills, D, animals, etc, today she texted W - I have a ? Me - ask W - you don't even really want to be friends, do you?
