My DB coach said it is ok to see the W, maybe it would rekindle feelings....IDK what do you guys think??
I'm not a girlie although up until BD I had chest length hair - does that count? Now I just have the hairy chest.
Go in with no expectations or pursuit and have fun. Let her see that you have a life without her and are complete - even if that is a lie.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Hahaha you are funny Andrew. Yes we will count your chest length hair. That's what I did....just went and talked, had no expectations and tried to act like my life was great.
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
IDK personally, I don't want my W to think that we can be "just friends" I'm not game for that at this point. but what do I know I'm not a pro at this . If you were comfortable with it I think it can be a good thing to rekindle feelings. I think at some point I would want that as well, I just don't want it too soon in my situation.
It's good she initiated contact, but I would be wary of motivation. She could just be trying to temp check you in a way to see how receptive you are to her.
Idk though hopefully a vet could way in on that.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
Give yourself some credit. I don't think it was a temp check, I mean maybe slightly but she probably misses you. Isn't the OW in another country? My Ws ea was in other country...that ended way sooner than I actually expected. Not to give you hopes or anything but long distance is hard, let alone diff countries too many variables thah can go wrong.
Don't pursue, as long as it was her idea, and you end the interaction I think it's ok, maybe yeah some rekindling. Make sure you're looking like the best hawker she's ever seen!
Changed the name Cus W has access to my cc where I paid for coaching and the telephone number comes up on my cc statement so if she were to google it and come here she'd know straight away and we don't need that. Changed my log in for cc and changed my name here. Better safe than sorry!
Hi Hawker, hope you do t mind me responding on your thread! If you think about it she contacted you after you went dim with her (result!) and I really think those excuses she used are pretty lame! Also even if she is still with OW, imagine how OW must feel knowing she has asked you out for a drink and if OW didn't know she had met you for a drink does that make you the OW now.... mmmm?
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
Sorry Hawker, I wasn't trying to make a good thing out to be a bad thing. I just would be wary of motivation.
BUT it does definitely show that going dim on her worked, it got her attention and made her miss you enough to make up some lame excuses to want to see you.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
Thanks everyone!! I was thinking the same thing Colby about the OW hahahah. And chesyt the other woman isn't in another country but I wonder what if anything is going on....anyhow not getting my hopes up. I was looking the best, all tan and dressed nice. .
Yes cheesyt better safe than sorry on the name change!!!
Maybs I am weary about the motivation as well so I will stay dim still and not pursue.
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
