I have a question while reading other people's sitch...the WW always seem to be mad at the LBS saying that they caused all of this....my W has never blamed me, she says it is all her fault, no one understands, she is so sorry...blah blah....is this just the guilt talking?
I'm not sure. My W blames me for everything right now, even her feeling guilty and refuses to take any responsibility for any of this right now.
But I am curious to know what more experienced DBer's have to say about this...
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
Yes me 2....she has always felt guilty...before I found out about the EA she was acting distant and angry though...maybe it was the whole "I got caught" and not sure what she wanted...idk
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
No. It's true. She is confused and she will most likely come back to you if you follow DB to a tee. But watch out. If you take her back too easily she might lie and cheat all over again. That's been my experience the last 33 hours or so. It's awful. Beyond words
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I haven't followed DB to a tee and I am wondering after what happened to you if the A needs to play out...but I might not be around when and if that ever happens....I'm gonna keep GAL and working on myself...went to cosmic bingo last night with friends...it was a good time, haven't been out that late in years...lol...Also listened to some Ted talks...Amy Cuddy...good stuff...
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
Spent yesterday with friends all day long...it was a good day, went out to brunch and then dinner....its difficult to not have my W there since we used to do that all the time but it gets easier each time...gotta keep on keeping on....
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
I agree, at first it was extremely hard for me to do the things that W and I used to do together, but now it's a mild discomfort and after a few minutes I forget about it almost completely.
Good work!
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
Thanks Maybeep...I actually did forget about it after awhile as well. Thanks for encouragement...I need to be like you and do a better job at the dim/dark though...ughhhhh
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
I won't lie it's extremely hard for me to stay dark. What helps me is: If I feel like I miss her and want to contact her and I think about the reason why I'm missing W, then I just remind myself that she's not that person right now.
Or, I try to remind myself of all the reasons I decided to go dark in the first place.
it helps, I mean it hurts in it's own way but it does help.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
Thanks for encouragement...I need to be like you and do a better job at the dim/dark though...ughhhhh