An airliner was having engine trouble, and the pilot instructed the cabin crew to have the passengers take their seats and get prepared for an emergency landing.
A few minutes later, the pilot asked the flight attendants if everyone was buckled in and ready.
“All set back here, Captain,” came the reply, “except the lawyers are still going around passing out business cards.”
I've still not seen or talked to s14 in almost 3 weeks. He still does not have a phone. So I tried to enlist W's help by asking her what she thought I could do to work this out. But still no progress.
Yesterday was a great day - I started in the morning by taking Mom to a county office to transfer the title on a couple of vehicles after my Dad's passing in January. I had all the paperwork filled out so it went pretty smooth. It's always nice seeing Mom.
Then I saw a long time buddy for lunch. He heard I had been going thru some rough waters and invited me out. It was nice to get out and share a bit of what I was going thru, listen to his marital problems, and talk about Fantasy Football! Having friends that get me out and can lift my spirit are very special.
Then the highlight was our 3 daughters and grand-daughter came over in the evening. I have a new rocking comfy chair, and I got to hold and rock that sweet baby.
D20 is in town for a week from Boston. Her girlfriend just left her, and so she was heart-broken. Yeah, the stuff I've learned from DB was valuable in giving her a gentle attitude and a sympathetic ear, which she appreciated.
D21 is having ongoing problems with her stitches from the C-section a few weeks ago. She is very active and not sleeping, which is a problem for her healing. She has been in the hospital for 10 days already.
D19 is looking great, and I let her know I thought so. Working this summer has helped her, and she is enjoying it.
We got to watch Usain Bolt win his 2nd Gold medal. We watched a bit of the Vikings pre-season game. It was a wonderful cap to a great day. Oh yeah, I also was accepted as an Uber driver, so let's see if I can start making some extra $$$ to help when the legal business is slow.
Things are looking better. I spent a long weekend at a friend's cabin. 11 guys hitting the casino, boating, jet-skiing, gaming, and eating and drinking well. It was great to have the long weekend with friends.
I came back to some new work, and Ex texting me that s14 will be at my place for next weekend for my scheduled week with him. And the start of school for him after Labor Day. I am excited to get him back.
D19 is going back to Boston next week, so I will try and schedule some time with her this weekend too. Oh, this is a big relief to get s14 back and be able to try and mend some fences.
I'm glad you got away for a bit and enjoyed yourself w/your friends. Sometimes you have to do this in order to recharge the battery.
I am thrilled that your S14 is going to be coming to stay w/you over the holiday weekend. I just hope and pray that the bridge can be mended and the two of you can enjoy the weekend together.
Just remember, if you get angry, either walk away or count to 10 before you say anything that may come back to haunt you later.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks Job. ExW asked me to take s14 yesterday. I asked if everything is ok, and she texted me telling me she wanted us to bond together. Where was this empathy over the past month?
I saw s14 coming out of ExW's place and I jumped out of my truck and gave him a big hug. He hugged me back! I was so excited to see him I forgot to grab my wallet when I drove off to get him.
We were back to normal. We spoke about the Twins long losing streak. Teddy Football's serious knee injury. I asked how he was doing and he said "ok" without adding anything more.
Then the news about ExW came. SiL who I have been close to throughout this, instant-messaged me telling me W is already married to om. 2 weeks after the divorce and they are already married. D21 knows, but I don't know about any of the other kids, so I am keeping my mouth shut.
Bc of the help I have received here, I have not given ExW much thought since the divorce. I am detached. But the news of ExW's remarriage was hard to take. Her keeping the news secret from everyone is odd. (SiL made me promise to not reveal who told me.) It felt like the marriage is really over with this news, which duh! it really is.
S14 and I went to his school orientation (this is a new school for s14 close to my place) - they greeted the 9th graders to the high school with the band playing rousing songs, the cheerleaders forming a corridor, and the flag bearers cheering the kids on. It was very impressive. Yeah, s14 liked seeing the cheerleaders.
S14 and I went out for haircuts, getting school supplies and some clothes, and some food he chose (he wanted some healthy choice dinners, to help him with continuing to lose weight). I am impressed. I invited him to go to the exercise room with me at 9 am, but he was too sleepy.
S14 had a couple of flashes of anger, but I was able to quickly change the subject or make him smile with me. So far so good.
On the one hand, I am glad to hear she is remarried. Why? For you Wet. You can get that "closure" you needed for so long. Not the way I had hoped you would get the "closure" but just the same. I know you know what I mean.
Glad your son and you were able to hang out. I hope this is the start of some great news for you both!
Still around for you, Wet.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Wow, that was a little quick Wet! Ink barely dry and all....I'm sorry to read that, but it was also nice that SIL reached out and told you. I'm sure it will help bring closure and it sounds like you are in a pretty good place in any case.
Glad to hear you've been reconnecting with your S too :-)
Take care my friend X
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
That was a quick turn around from being divorced to remarrying before the ink was completely dry. Maybe they are keeping it secret because they don't want to hear any flack from others. Maybe your son knows about it or suspects something and this could be playing on his mind. Whatever the reason for the secret, I'm glad you aren't saying anything about it.
I'm so glad that you and your son are doing so much better. I do hope things go smoothly and he has a good year at school. Remember, before you speak from anger or frustration, count to ten and then decide if it's worth it to blow your stack.
Enjoy the holiday!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
S15's birthday is today. ExW has him. I will be taking s15, d21, her bf, grand-baby, and d20 out to Buffalo Wild Wings for dinner on Sunday night.
Ok, it was not a mystery to me that ExW married om less than 2 weeks after our divorce was official. During our divorce mediation ExW referred to om (who has lived with her since the beginning of 2016)as her "fiancé".
She also told me early on after the divorce papers were served that om was "dying", which was why she wanted the divorce rushed thru. She mentioned problems with his liver (he's a drinker). Frankly, I don't believe her, but who knows?
From SiL's report, ExW told her father (FiL) that with the re-marriage she is now on his life insurance policy, beneficiary of his pension (I don't think she understands that how much she will received from the pension can vary greatly depending on how single om set it up.) So this seems like a reason why ExW moved so quickly on the re-marriage.
Om told FiL that he likes ExW's kids (my kids! ) more than he likes his own 2 adult daughters, which is why he is disinheriting them. I'm sure there is a story there, that I don't want to know. I previously told the story from this past February, s15 pulled a knife and threatened om, so if his relationship is worse with his own daughters, yikes!!!
The whole story just feels yucky to me. But not my sandbox. Trying to keep the focus on me, my better health letting me start to exercise again, and s15. Ok, and holding grand-baby whenever I can.
SiL who I have been close to throughout this, instant-messaged me telling me W is already married to om. 2 weeks after the divorce and they are already married. D21 knows, but I don't know about any of the other kids, so I am keeping my mouth shut.
) more than he likes his own 2 adult daughters, which is why he is disinheriting them. I'm sure there is a story there, that I don't want to know. I previously told the story from this past February, s15 pulled a knife and threatened om, so if his relationship is worse with his own daughters, yikes!!!