Well everything we do is on a CCard anyway so not a big deal. She is a saver. I really can't say anything bad about her. She is healthy and exercises, from the surface she is a nice person and we did have fun. I just don't know where we lost sight of things and everything went negative. She just wanted me to take her out every once in a while. She initially would ask me to do tasks then it turned into nagging because I let it. Yep I know can't change the past.
Maybe I should do the same as the example on MWD's site. The H gave his W everything and set her up in her own place plus more and eventually she came back to him. Hopeful, yes, likely, no. These kinds of scenarios should be tracked statistically somehow.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
I am struggling today. Did not sleep until 2 am and woke up at 6:30 am.
I have 1.5 weeks to get all my things packed out of my house and into an apartment. More money spent. She does not work and we continue draining the bank account. How can the courts let this happen? How is it that she doesn't see this is hurting the boys. Why does the nice guy have to fold. I am trying to stay strong and she continues to be spiteful to me in hopes that I fold.
An enabling MIL does not make this easier. I pray that I am doing the right thing and that somehow I will survive this whole fiasco.
Jim Kao,
I'm right there with you... sleep comes and goes, some nights 3-4 hours some nights none. I've also seen our shared checking account continue to go down as we now have more expenses.
My W works so immediately we put a financial plan together to at least separate our pay and both pay an agreed upon share into a common account - but pain is being felt all around. It costs more when we are travelling separately (which we are this summer) and living separately.
WAW's don't think logically - they are riding on their emotions and the high they get off the A. Some of the decisions I've seen my W make over the last 2 months has certainly made me realize that she's not the same person right now. At least she's doing IC (or I believe she is) but until they get a serious wake up call - perhaps out of $, or OM cheats or dumps her, or they really miss kids, the behavior will likely go on.
Keep Praying! I came across a good quote the other day that this is an opportune time to "grow closer to the Lord" I've been working at fitting that into my GAL strategy.
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
