5 weeks in since she said she doesnt love me.(2)

[Vanilla]

Oh and buy your own tickets and go to the movie another time.

Happy families?

You already said no friend zone and by going you will be friend zone.

Mouth and actions should match.


V

[Natus]

hi Vanilla. I didnt see it that way. You're absolutely right. We go out as H/W or not at all.

How do you guys do it though? We are still living together, same bed, do things all the time together with kids.

Do i start to actively not be around her? like if shes home should i go out?

[Natus]

So the W is texting me more throughout the day. Im guessing as a replacement for OM. That was their thing, texting.

Just gona follow the 37 steps and keep my responses short unless its about son.

[tjcran]

Good plan - follow the 37 steps/rules.

[Natus]

W texted if she can call her boss (OM) for updates on whether the company will let her go early for her new job offer. She was expecting a response today. She then offered if i would prefer she does it in text. I was surprised by the offer. Told her text. Presumably so i can read or verify shes being good. Im not planning to though, i just dont want to get in the habit of having to check / snoop again.

Major news not 15mins after her big big boss called to let her know she can go early. So now W can accept her new job offer, an exceptionally good offer which she is excited for and will alleviate some stress from me because she will no longer see OM daily and her because current company is winding down in 2-3 years

I know im not suppose to read too much into it but her continuous NC with OM and now changing job, its what i asked for.

[Scrant]

Hi Natus, thanks for dropping by my thread. Looking at your sitch makes me wary of giving advice as my W is now living with her ex boss years after he sacked her! I think you are on the right track in setting your boundaries and conditions. I think you are right to be cautious. Whatever happens I hope you continue to work on a great R with your S. Keep strong.

[Natus]

Hi Scrant. Well im definately going to be more cautious now.

[Natus]

Not 5 mins later received a call from her. Shes beaming with happiness and excitement she just got showed around her new workplace and all the background checks forms she needs to fill. She doesn't officially work there till next month though.

Before she hung up the phone she said see you later. This is the first time i feel she meant it. It wasnt the same forced line i've been hearing over the last weeks. Either that or im projecting.

I dont know. I think im imagining things today. We had a pleasant night last night with our Son. Then this morning the peck on the cheek felt warmer than usual.

I know not to read into it but i want to journal it anyway.

Im going lunch with the ladies from my office. This is the second office i've been posted in where i am the only guy. The things i hear omg! and they call us men crass.

[Natus]

Need to GAL badly tonight. Knowing shes back in office today and OM is there is depressing me a little this afternoon. Apart from the fact that everyone in her office knows about their affair so that should make it difficult for them to interact freely there is no way to know for sure she or him is honoring the no contact despite doing so well over the last two weeks.

Trying to drill it in my head that i have no control over what she does, only what i can do.

[DDJ]

Keep drilling Natus.

I heard a song this morning, one line goes like this...

"I choose to be myself, you can choose to be my chick".