I don't think they suffer that much, even if they do eventually regret. My WW STBXW made weird statements to self medicate like "if we ever get back together" writhing weeks of S. I think they see it as over as soon as they BD, so it's full steam ahead with the new... Or, I can always go back to LBS if I change my mind.. My WW still blames me for everything that didn't work in her eyes, so that has to be easy to leave...
Ralph88 Me 40s W 30s, D5 D3 , M7 T9 2013 B drop 1, EA found 2016 B drop 2, EA/PA? 2/16 Physical Seperation 2/16 I filed for D 4/16 PA Confirmed
That is truly deplorable what your H has done. An engagement ring given while fully married? That is about as low as you can sink.
I think our spouses are in a race to the bottom. That 'I didn't want to hurt you' bs is all too familiar and is beyond old got us both. It's such a complete cop out.
I hope you get some good quality sleep tonight, Miss Painter.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
I thought you were talking about how I was thinking like a WAS - in a post on the next page. It is just interesting to me to see that I must actually have picked up on exactly what was going on, even if I didn't know it.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
Oh my goodness - I just don't understand that. How on earth do people think it's okay...guys, look at my lovely engagement ring & let's vote on a wedding dress...yes my fiancé just needs to resolve the small issue of his existing W from whom he isn't yet separated....
I'm shaking my head here - and Painter I'm sorry you had to see that. It's the worst example of immaturity and deceit.
In my sitch, I just decided that my XH's poor decisions in no way diminish me. I'm not perfect by any means, but I'm not striving for perfection - just to be someone I can live with.
Take care my lovely xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
