thank you everyone. i'm not basking in any kind of glory, but this has been a long time coming. I am really starting to feel like me again. Once again, this weekend is jam packed, and i'm double booked at some points. it's such a turnaround from last year, or even the year before.
ive been maintaining not texting, calling, not liking her facebook stuff etc. for a few weeks. and it seems to be gettitng a desired effect from her. do i continue being like this until she "changes her evil ways completely" ? or do i throw her a little somthing every once in a while?
i will do anything or nothing to make this process speed along. things are goiong great, and i dont want to mess anything up. i just wonder if its sustainable for me to simlpy make her do all the work.
The analogy might not work for you e04355 but it does for me. I do a bit of handyman carpentry from time to time and the hardest part of any job for me has always been waiting for the glue to dry. There's always a temptation to poke at it, or do a bit of light sanding and the next thing you know the parts aren't aligned any more or the blasted thing has fallen apart.
Let the glue dry. You're many steps ahead of me in this process. I haven't even found the glue bottle yet much less figured out where the pieces fit. I have keep telling myself too that it might turn out that it's the wrong glue and things won't hold together but that I need to move forward anyway.
Sorry - bad analogies are one of my weaknesses.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
no, that was spot on !!! thank you for the words of wisdom.
as much progress as has been made, i need to realize that time is of the essence. i have a habbit of wanting to tend the fire, or poke things along. im not a sit and wait kind of guy.
sometimes i sit and worry. will this work? is it working? what can i do better? how much longer? etc etc.
I took my wedding ring off, removed her from my FB relationship status and unfriendly her. Unfollowed her on instagram and deleted her contact from my phone, so no WhatsApp either.
She must know that you are willing to move forward, without or with her. You must live your life for you and don't forget to experience everything, don't block out the tears, they will make you stronger. Until you no longer cry.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
i know that i need to stop analizing everything. but today in the kids exchange. both her dropping off and then me dropping them off, she noticed my haircut, looked at me. like, really looked at me, especially when i was speaking. she liked one of my facebook posts. and was extra nice to me.
i kept all conversation very short, but warm.
this is all brand new stuff. in the past, she acted like she couldnt wait to get away from me. now.....she kinda acts like she wants me to stick around, but is afraid to ask.
I also cut my hair two weeks back and she says "there's the man that i fell in love with", whilst holding my face. They need to see a confident happy you, before they can consider considering you.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
Wow - is this a common theme here? I chopped a foot off my hair and went back to a "regular" men's haircut myself. It was no longer making me happy. I had reached out to W several times in months previous asking if she thought I should cut and what style to go to but she had already disengaged from me. BD pushed me over the edge to make a decision about that (and a few other things) that I will never regret.
One great thing is that I've also gotten lots of compliments from people about how great "I" look which makes me feel good. It's been many years since W has told me that although she would occasionally compliment my clothes.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
