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You can do this Phoebe,

I think that is a good strategy, meet him on your turf, he needs to come back to you. H needs to earn your trust again and respect you. Stay positive and focus on you! At least you ate some comfort food tonight! McDonalds is always yummy every once in a while!


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S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15
EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16
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Finally moving forward...
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Hi Phoebe,

You have done well today. Let it pass through and find some peace and rest this night.

You are in my prayers and I am sending you all my support and positive thoughts this night that you may feel some comfort.

Sleep well sweet Phoebe, and may you have pleasant dreams.


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D final 6/1/2017

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Thank you, JimKao and SadHub. Your encouragement and support and kind words mean a lot to me.

Tomorrow, the next lawyer. Tonight, I try to decide where to sleep in the house. I'm thinking guest futon, even if it's not very comfortable.


H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
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Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
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Good luck, Phoebe! Try to take over the space - put your stuff out and occupy it.

On the bright side... He hasn't taken OW into the house. That would be worse.

I just found out a few days ago that H had OW visit our home over a year ago while I was gone. It made me sick. He has denied that she was ever there all along.


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EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
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No, Painter. She definitely has been in the house. Hence the reason I'm not in the master bedroom.tuck. : (

I think she's been here at least twice, but I only have proof of one time.


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That should have been "Yuck." Not tuck.

Fat fingers.


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Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
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Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
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Originally Posted By: Phoebe
No, Painter. She definitely has been in the house. Hence the reason I'm not in the master bedroom.tuck. : (

I think she's been here at least twice, but I only have proof of one time.


I understand (probably why the pictures are put away) - I meant that he's not living there with her, at least.


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Good morning Phoebe,

I hope you got some rest and found some peaceful moments this past night.

Rainbow hugs for strength, and I said a prayer for you so that you may have strength and clarity of mind as you embark on the journey of your day.

(((Phoebe)))

Be well this day, and take a moment to remember those things that you are grateful for. It will provide some peace in those moments you need it most.


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BD Feb 2016
WAW moves out 4/16/16
D final 6/1/2017

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Thank you, SadHub. You're right, Painter. It would be worse if they were both here. Can't imagine how messy that would be. Super Yuck!

Well, sleep was a lofty goal in a strange bed in this house. I fell asleep sometime before 2am and then woke up at 5:19. Trying to doze for hours now, and fell asleep just long enoUgh to have a dream about some creepy guy assaulting me in public. Very strange dream. It has not helped that since daybreak, literally the whole time, a robin has been tapping on a window downstairs. I tried shifting the screen so he wasn't seeing his reflection as much, but to no avail. Tap, tap, tap. Tap, tap. He's a confused bird.

Anyway, no joy in Whoville today. Time to finish loading the car, then the L, then out of here. I can't wait to get this over with.


H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
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Aw, sorry you slept so poorly and had nightmares. It wa 2am to 7am for me. Hope there's a Starbuck's nearby, and be careful when you drive home!


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17
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