I agree phoebe, I had trust issues before due to an abussive r, I feel I gave my last bit of trust to h- and he went and abused that trust. Not sure I can do that again.
Thanks jksd, last night he initiated sex, I resisted for a while. Then one thing led to another and we had sex. Needless to say, today he is back ignoring me. Oh and it's my bday, he forgot. Trying not to let this get to me, but must admit it does hurt.
I agree, it's like a challenge, something they can't have, so the phychology says they must
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Happy birthday too. Probably going to get the WW a card for mothers day and a bunch of flowers for her birthday. Hope she enjoys the (lack of) recognition.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
Happy birthday, hot mama! ... I hope you can go out and pamper yourself today. Eat some cake. By some shoes.
Don't let him get you down. You deserve so much better! H is really eating the cake these days tho, isn't he? And on your birthday! Shame on him! ... I just have a sense that if he really thought he was losing you, he might get his cr-p together, and I mean really BELIEVED that Cherry was DONE, packing up her stilettos and swaggers for GOOD, and just moving on and out ... I just don't get the sense he has ever known what it feels like to lose you. ...
Let's not think about him today. You deserve to be the one eating cake!
Cheers! -Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
I think his escapades are a form of temp checking. I tried my best to ignore him, he just edged closer and closer. And yeah I did give in because to feel my h hold me is what I long for. Though I did the male thing and roled over after to go to sleep and he rolls up against me.
I think he is really pushing me today.. I don't quite know wether I should just be fine and happy when he gets home or let him know I'm pissed. Any advise??
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
