Those do sound like a couple baby steps by H, Cherry.
I love that you are "glowing." Good for you!
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
I just wanted to stop by. I want to go back and read more of your sitch. I am glad you had a nice trip--you certainly deserve it!
I get the sense your H has been yo-yo-ing around for too long. I cannot even imagine how frustrating that must be. Grrrhhhh... And you have a little one. I hope he pulls his head out of his arse soon here. ... but if not, I have a feeling it is his HUGE loss! You seem like a smart, and sassy, catch!
keep on being fabulous! -Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
Yeah his Ll is acts of service, I thanked him for what he had done. He didn't say anything back but that's not the point really.
I do find myself way more relaxed, I no longer have anxiety before seeing him. I'm strutting that bit more :P
Thanks for stopping by all with your words of encouragement, I'll catch up on everything later, been so mad busy!
Hey blue wave, yeah he really has. It's been 18 months and it's so confusing. It's the not knowing which is hard- he gives a glimmer of hope saying he loves me, then months later, he doesn't again. And it's been difficult to try and get on amidst the confusion really
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Glad to hear you had such a good time in Paris. I love that city, even if it's not my home town. You sound so strong and in a good place, I'm so proud of you. Keep up the good work :-)
Just a drive by hug and high five for you Cherry. You are doing great and I love reading the confidence in your updates. You are growing stronger each day and I draw strength from the example you are setting.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
May you have a wonderful day and have much joy as you accomplish what you set out to do today.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
Thanks guys for the support and popping by. This morning before work h did some chores I would have had to do after work. I thanked him, he completely ignored me. I said bye. He ignored me. But I still breezed by, I was happy. He even walked in on me getting dressed whilst dancing to music.
It's hard at times, but I'm determined to stay in this mindset. I realise I'm a catch, and I have a lot to offer. It's up to him if he wants to join in this life with me. But my, would he be a fool if he decides not to.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Awesome update! I need to get some of that attitude.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
So tonight h is my ride home from work. He calls around to see if someone could take me home. Only he didn't actually tell me. So when I wait for the normal time, he asks if I'd called a cab. I said no I wasn't aware I should be, and he tells me to get in the car. Now I guess the positive is he insisted he dropped me off. The negative, I told him I'd get a cab as I was no inconvenience to anyone (stubborn pride and that).
He said nothing more. I don't get why he couldn't have just directly asked me, or told me he was going out as I could have made arrangements
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
