Same story really. I've been here last year, got him back, but I don't think he got out of the fog. Now I'm getting the ILYBNILWY, I'm not happy, this isn't working. I suspect an ea. I have seen some very flirtatious messages. He's withdrawn, angry. All the usual suspects really.
And me?? Well I'm up and down. Back dbing, currently trying to love him from a distance. A great one. As all we do is pretty much say hello. And that is that.
Any ideas and support is always more than welcome and appreciated.
Today, I've been trying to not let this bother me, I truly was faking it til I made it. Partly just to avoid those "are you ok" moments at work. I'm on track for promotion, so this can't jeopardise this. I have a great name for myself as a great grafter, and the people there genuinely seem to like me. I'm thinking of baby at forefront, no matter what happens, I need to earn a living to support us.
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Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Ugh trying but it's little things he does. It's hard not to get angry, I do but I don't let it show. Maybe it's him trying to assert independence, maybe he's trying to push buttons I don't know.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
I know about those buttons being pushed. And I know about that anger. V can share a little with you about the "white anger".
Anger as V tells me is not bad, but if controlled correctly may actually benefit.
My sitch today has pushed a little bit of that anger that is helping me with detaching, but I have not had any anxiety attacks either. I am sure there will be a dip on this coaster, but I am embracing it and feeling better today than I have for the past 2 months.
Keep that chin up, stay engaged with your work and you will come out stronger at the end of this day.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
In a way, I think last time what began to help my detaching is that I had a lot of anger. I think what gets to me at times is the way he ignores me or the evil evil stares at me. They just make me wanna yell at him that I am worth oh so much more than that.
But I bit my tongue, told myself that's not what dbing would teach me..
So I can see how anger could possibly help , so if v would like to tell me more- I'd love to hear. In a way, I'm kind of appreciative of work. Last week I could barely drag myself in, let alone look anyone in the eye. Today I held a business meeting I walked around rather fabulous in my valentinos.
I am more than what he makes of me
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Cherry, every time he makes you feel less than perfect, imagine yourself i your sexy shoes. Or could you actually strut around in them at home? That may just be the right 180 for you!
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
That's what I'm trying to do. He makes me feel inadequate so I shall show him rather than shout my worth at him. He's off out tonight, heard through mil. Still never mind.
Feeling anger, I guess that's cause that's all he shows towards me right now
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
So the song we always said was "our song" came on the radio. That hurt. It felt like it was a song I had with an ex who isn't him if that makes sense? Like this man at home is no one I know. An empty stranger who won't look at me. Talk to me. Acknowledge my existence.
On the positive note, last two nights he slept in MB he just got in and joined me watching to. No conversation. He didn't lie as far as he could away from me like he usually does when furious. Actually slept facing me. Mustn't read into it I know, but can this be seen as a positive?
He's told his mom he isn't happy, hates to come home and why does nobody care about HIS happiness
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
