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[Vanilla]

Some threads go quickly and others so very slowly.

Let's see how this one moves forward, my DB journey has scarcely begun, I have so much work to do on V to become someone only a fool would leave.

Still a long way to go. 2 years in and 9 months completely dark, NC for 7 months. Filed for D, WH has not responded but cross filed. Courts are saying his petition stands.

WH living in Italy with OW(n+1), I think? Who knows!

V is an abused W, I was a target of a very difficult with many cross addictions including compulsive gambling.

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[Vanilla]

This thread is weight loss thread.

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[rd500]

Hi Vanillia. You are already someone only a fool would leave and please don't think otherwise

H was the issue and not V. You may not be perfect but who is.

Take care. Rd

[mustardseed]

Hi Vanillia. You are already someone only a fool would leave and please don't think otherwise

H was the issue and not V. You may not be perfect but who is.

Take care. Rd

This!!

[Joe46]

Hello V!! As you know I have not been on here in a while. I will have to catch up on your thread.

I too am in agreement with the others. You are a wonderful woman and H doesn't deserve you! I have learned through my journey that we make mistakes in our marriage, we have to learn from them and move on to make ourselves better. I have come to find out that XW has been doing this alot in her past. I am not the first. I think we are similar in our situations. Even though we made mistakes, we don't deserve abuse or being cheated on.

Our ex's are someone else's problem now. We have to heal and know what we will and won't tolerate in the future. My counselor is working with me on this. Why did I tolerate the intolerable??

You are a wonderful and caring person!! You deserve happiness and peace!

[Vanilla]

Thank you for the catch up Joe.

I accept my part in the failure of my M, I had few boundaries.

I am relieved that WH has another R, and I think there are very few posters here who think that! You may be one of the other few.

As long as it lasts WH will not come looking for V. Sadly my D is going nowhere fast.

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[Vanilla]

I have had an exciting few days. On Friday night I was at the House of Commons as I was invited to a function there by one of my favourite clients.

I have spent the weekend in peace with myself in my own thoughts. Saturday I rested totally and had a lot of sleep. As in almost 24 hours on and off. I fasted all day.

Today, the gym, and food shopping.

I did no work at all. None, not one scrap. I should feel guilty but I don't.

Next weekend glam sis will be here for the whole weekend, I am so looking forward to it.

I am hoping I can rescue the Fins before I go under. It's a very narrow squeak.

We will see

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[SciDad]

V-

Don't feel guilty for taking care of yourself - you're worth the effort.

[Vanilla]

Thank you Sci

I went to the gym, I did a spin and a body pump. Eating was perfect. Worked hard and moved forward a little on the Fins.

Tomorrow is another day.

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[kiwiGAL]

You give great advice Vanilla - thank you for being you - i am sucking up your advice on other peoples posts like a sponge