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So her response was "No problem, forget it. I will be fine." My friend who I speak to about my sitch said that is girl talk for "now you are supposed to insist on giving me what I want right away." My comment was I cannot give her this she has to feel the consequences of her actions and I cannot be her doormat. Needless to say no other contact from her tonight. BTW tomorrow is my Birthday, oh I am sure this will be a memorable one!


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Well just got done with counseling. Sometimes I feel like I am wasting my time doing it. What I want is instruction not to talk about how I feel.... I feel bad, how else am I too feel. Either way it is worse today, I turned 41 (half my life down the drain), M is ending, I will never be a 'real' to a 'real' kid at this rate, I am starting over... should I go on. So that's life and yes it would have been better to write this down and burn it but the panic that would create in the office, along with getting fired would just add to my long list of why life $ucks.


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Sorry you're hurting, Tim. And Happy Birthday, I wish it was under different circumstances.

Dude, you still have another 40-50 years to k!ck some ass. You're not an old geezer. Don't beat yourself up.

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Thanks Thornton, I said to myself last night that I was not going to have a pity party for myself today and well....


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It happens.. I've been in a funk for a week. Forgive yourself for being human and try again tomorrow.

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Originally Posted By: TimR
Well just got done with counseling. Sometimes I feel like I am wasting my time doing it. What I want is instruction not to talk about how I feel.... I feel bad, how else am I too feel. Either way it is worse today, I turned 41 (half my life down the drain), M is ending, I will never be a 'real' to a 'real' kid at this rate, I am starting over... should I go on. So that's life and yes it would have been better to write this down and burn it but the panic that would create in the office, along with getting fired would just add to my long list of why life $ucks.


Happy birthday.
I'm in the same boat too. Funny how just a few months ago I felt on top of the world, things were all coming together. It happens to the best of us.
Focus on yourself first.


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Happy birthday TimR. Don't let the W get you down. Go do something for yourself tonight even if it is something small like getting a milkshake. You've got this!!!


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Thank you all for the birthday wishes. It means a lot in times like these! So tonight S came down to visit me for my birthday. He was here when I got home from work. Apparently, he did not tell his mom that he was coming so I had him tell her. Well I guess she grilled him to the point he said she thought it was my idea that he come down. He did tell her I wasn't even home when he got there, but I am sure in her mind I was plotting. She is just going to have to accept we have a bond that is important to him whether she likes it or not. She of course has not contacted me and I will imagine she wont until the weekend for the wrestling tournament. Well that's my day, one day older and yet I have probably aged 10 years in the last few months.


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Happy birthday! Glad you got to see your son, but wish his mom wouldn't have made that filled with drama. I never got a happy bday from my WAH this year either. No matter - you have 41 more years to fill up! Hope you have some GAL'ing plans for this year!


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