V is for Vanilla 27

[SciDad]

V-

Wanted to send you hugs.

I see a lot of introspection and personal growth. Now that you've identified things that you can control and what you are responsible for, what are your next steps? Have you started reworking your goals? Is there a need?

Thinking of you and sending as many good vibes as I can to you

[Vanilla]

V-

Wanted to send you hugs.

I just love hugs, my prime LL is physical touch (include naughty rude things) and then acts of service (include dinner parties).

I see a lot of introspection and personal growth.

Thank you, it's important to me to resolve certain issues.

Now that you've identified things that you can control and what you are responsible for, what are your next steps?


They fall in four main areas

This is where I will be in twelve months

1. WEALTH
I resolve all my financial debt and stabilise my business putting it on a sound footing

I am selling the big house and I release the value to pay off my debts

I have moved into my own offices for my business

I have settled the D finances satisfactorily

I have brought the business issues up to date and am forward planning

2 HEALTH
I have lost all of the weight and I am fit and active

I am Free from the PTSD and have a calm serene mind

I enjoy good quality sleep

I eat nutritious food, my diabetes is stabilised

I enjoy the sauna and swimming

3. MIRTH
I have kept on GAL and more GAL

I go dancing every week

I enjoy holidays every year, films every week and friendship every day

I visit my family and glam sis, aged pa and clever nephew every alternate month

Gratitude and spirituality fill my day and with meditation I reflect and pray

4.WORTH

I find self worth and I attend at least 3 improvement courses

I have taken exams in counselling, I keep on DB and applying the principles

I continue to improve my interactions with others and set appropriate boundaries which I enforce


Have you started reworking your goals?

Goals are above

My action plan runs to pages and pages........

Is there a need?

oh yes I do think so. I have no plans for R new or old. I still stand for M and do not even think of dating until D is completely over. In addition I have closed the door on WH completely. I am very afraid of WH, he is unpredictable and abusive. So all of the normal things like validating, leaving the path home smooth, acting like a lighthouse do not apply to me. The path home has land mines, the lighthouse has no bulb and I am completely NC, dark, pitch black, silent. Done.

Thinking of you and sending as many good vibes as I can to you

------------------------

Jellyb and I refer to it as rainbow strength, as it's a lovely warm thing to send and feel.

Enjoy rainbows back.

Hugs

V

[SciDad]

Thank you for responding V - I love your plans!

How long until D is finalized? I'm might have mentioned it somewhere else, but I couldn't remember

[Vanilla]

Sci

WH has done a vanishing act, he hasn't even responded to the petition or my solicitor.

Other than to say he is abroad and not taking action.

I would like WH gone and I have stopped saying STBX WH. I may have to wait 5 years to do an uncontested D. Problem is time frame starts when he acknowledges D petition.

It's all about control.

He told a mutual friend he could come back any time he liked. He has threatened me, sent others to threaten me and it's recorded. A friend of his even rang me and I didn't answer the conversation in the background was recorded on my mobile answerphone and it was pure evil. In fact this woman came to my home in the middle of a Sunday afternoon. I have bought a white van and they were accusing me of an A, on the basis the van is on my drive.

I am very afraid of him and I have good reason.

Thank you for asking Sci, my lovely Gg is in the same position. Vanishing WH, who think they have nothing to lose by playing a waiting game.

Watch this space

V

[mutatio]

I love your next steps V. Your headed in a good direction. Peace

[SciDad]

V-

Every time I think about your WH, I want to punch something. I'm not a violent person, but it infuriates me that a person can treat someone (especially someone they say they loved at some point) with such callousness and disregard.

Huggs, now and forever. Just reach through your screen whenever you'd like one - my LL is touch too (can you tell, lol)

[ARose]

V, just checking in and sending you positive energy and much love. I love your goals and your list of what you are and are not responsible for. You are awesome V.

[Vanilla]

I am struggling with work overload again, I am exhausted depleted and tired.

Extra sleep isn't helping, just work overload and I need to get to it.

Fins are falling over again, I have to get invoices out answer emails etc etc

Overload.

I was doing great with the exercise and now it's stopped again, back to it tomorrow.

Problem has been mornings and getting out of bed. I am so tired and sometimes resistant to work when I am this tired. I am fine when I get going.

I am though pressing ahead with my plans.

Sci thank you, I understand how you feel! I really am unsure how WH felt or thought. That's his business, I know how I feel and it's about WH and I don't want him around in my country.

I want my D, I want to start to think about moving on. Because I am M still and I still stand for M until I am D. D sooner than later.

Than you Mu, I seem to move in great leaps and then I crawl. I am still studying the FOO stuff.

Fo thank you, it has taken a great deal of work to get to this space and time, I had few boundaries and now I have quite strong ones.

Life has learning for us and it doesn't stop.

V

[Thornton]

Hi V,

Im sorry you are so tired, Im going throught that myself.

Regarding work, do you prioritize your tasks and then check them off as you go?

I found that by doing that and focusing on the little tasks instead of my giant workload that it helps.

[mahhhty]

V,
I love you and view you as a very gentle soul. I'm sorry you are having a hard time with working and getting up. What exactly are the issues (the real issues) and what could you do about themv? This exercise may be beneath you but it might help in figuring out how to fix the true issues.