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I say break it.


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Originally Posted By: annab74
Rain...I think removing yourself when XF does his phone stuff is a great idea. Telling him why was also good. You are setting boundaries and now he knows what to expect when he crosses them. Phone = No Rain. Very simple and easy for him to understand that his actions will have consequences.

Of course...breaking his phone altogether has a certain appeal too. wink


Am I to understand that both you and NYGal are on board with me putting a hit out on his phone!? Because I can absolutely get behind THAT!:)

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By the way ladies since that talk he has limited his video calls and now wants me to call him on regular voice calls. I know his game though. So I ignored most of his "call me" texts. The only time we've spoken is about apartments for him and he keeps asking me if I'm okay.

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I'm on board. Do it. Buh bye phone!


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Tell him you're not okay, and restate your conditions.


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Originally Posted By: Rain75
Am I to understand that both you and NYGal are on board with me putting a hit out on his phone!? Because I can absolutely get behind THAT!:)


Works for me... go for it! wink


Me: 43, Him: 40
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Am I to understand that both you and NYGal are on board with me putting a hit out on his phone!? Because I can absolutely get behind THAT!:)


Works for me... go for it! wink


Lightbulb moment. I'm going to be rich! I'll just start a business swiping spouses cell phones and have a crew of hackers. Rich I tell ya!

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And of course I'll have to "test" it out with XF. It's for research only of course. smile

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Well you DID say you wanted to start an infidelity related business right? wink


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Very true Anna. But this wasn't it. I could start both and be even richer! Then it wouldn't matter to me what or who he spends his money on. Nah..that's not true.

After we talked about apartments for him he went silent. It's like what you wrote on NYGals thread. When you think you're okay and then something happens and you aren't. I have that feeling in my stomach again.

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