Ghost Busting Round Six - it's about me

[ATPeace]

Old thread
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Day by day week by week I am finding I am crying less not waking up,in so much fear

Still living together and I am not pushing things here

Focus on what I can control

Ghost

[rd500]

New thread , new G. It's hard G but you can get to grips with this

Positive thoughts. Rd

[ATPeace]

Thanks rd

I would say 80 percent of the time I am ok it is just when I have time to think that my mind starts to wander.... I keep telling myself right now I really do not have anything of a relationship nothing.

I played tennis this morning I have signed up with a new personal trainer at a smaller private gym he does a 12 week program not cheep but he guarantees results I have signed up for 6 months and hope by that time I should have lost three or four stone of weight but also packed on quite a bit of muscle

This is about changing me making me look better and becoming more healthy

It is an investment into my wellbeing and this is priceless

Enjoying spending time with children

Feeling happier

Ghost

[otw]

I like that post.

[sandi2]

Good job. You have done very well being persistent about your weight and working out.

[pinn]

good to hear ghost... keep it up

[Sotto]

Glad to read it Ghost, and it sounds like you are doing well with the activity levels. If you can match that with eating well, you're going to get there for sure.

I'm glad you are feeling happier in yourself too xx

[ATPeace]

Sotto are you still in the same house with H

Some days are flippin hard and I almost just want to screem ENOUGH

I do wonder how this is affecting our children I know w is and I am crying I have to think of our kids here

I am having my first training session with new fitness coach on Monday and hill sprints tomorrow morning

[angel r]

Hey ghost , nice to hear that you are doing good.

You say you wonder how this is affecting the children. Trust me ,it does. I have a 3yr old and a 1yr old. I have notice they act different , I at times see a sad face. But as soon i do, i make her smile by acting silly or telling her something funny or just telling her i love you. It's heartbreaking to see their innocent little soul being affected by their mother's decision to just give up. Hang tight ghost! Yes , it's a wild ride.

But everything starts falling into its place once you drop the rope and you stop caring for her.

[ATPeace]

Drop the rope and stop caring for her this is where I need to be at

Right now all I can do is work in me and become a better person someone that I love a little more than I do right now

I am working in my weight and my business

I do not want to loose my wife I lost her 8 months ago and truth be known probablŷ a couple of years before that as well

Yes she tried telling me she was unhappy and I did not listen I cannot change this I wish I could.

With everything that I know I still cannot drop this flipping rope I will keep working in it I really will

Today was a good day overall and I will focus on what I can control


Question time of the people that have been bombed who took the next step did you insist it was the one that dropped the bomb or did you decide that things had to move forward how did you decide when the time was right to push on with your life

Thanks

Ghost