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#2626343 11/24/15 06:51 PM
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Hey all

Starting a new thread due to my concerns mentioned previously gona let old threads fall yo the bottem and try to be a lil less specific in this new thread.


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Tell us what happened when you got back home.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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So last i left off i had set my boundary on how i cant live in and OM and she continues to contact OM i will have to move forward and will not be able to continue being married to her. Then i was expecting a fight when i got home after going out. We talk alot and she cried alot. She kept telling me she wants us both to bw happy and that she doesnt want me to hate her. She also is pushing for seperation but she doesnt want to leave house bed or son. I told her i dont want to either. She also talked about how she doesnt think our R will work because neither of us can trust each other. After we talked she went out with a freind anf when she came home i could tell she was crying more. Not sure what to do next. Im just basically continuing to follow sandi's rules. I went out to gym last night. Were still in the same house still sleeping in thw same bed im trying to remain pleasent and happy. I think it has her confused. Any thoughts?


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Also When we talked after i got home she wanted to hold my hands i didnt let her. I told her i needed to know the truth and she wasnt giving it to me i was certain so that she wasnt giving me the truth.


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Another update on last chapter of NMMNG and it is quite the eye opening read! And.... finally got my copy of DR today too now just need to find time to read it. smile


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No one reaponding to me frown.

So another update my W hasnt stoped texting guy and i found out she and him met up monday. W just left house to "meet her girlfreind" im pretty sure shes meeting up with OM should i just text her and tell her not to bother coming home. I set out my boundary didnt expext to have to act on it this quick. I havent even told anyone i know that were having M problems i havent talked to a D attourny yet. She doesnt respect me not even the slightest but.


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Don't send the text. It is late where I am. I will catch up tomorrow.


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I wouldn't tell her not to come home unless you talk to a lawyer first and find out what sort of position that puts you in in your state. It could put you in a tight spot if you end up before a divorce court someday.

My wife said she wanted separation and I told her I wasn't leaving my home because I hadn't done anything wrong to deserve that. So she left voluntarily.

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K its 11:30 pm here im just gona go to bed i told her before i feel disrespected she comes home late and i will not be waiting up for her any longer. Guess i better stick to it.


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So dosed of woke up its 12:45am no shes been gone for a quick bite and chat with "her girl freind" for 3.5 Hrs now. Do i tell her shes not welcome in the bed or set her PJs out on the spare bed leave the door open in spare with lights on and shut the door to M bedroom and spread out across the whole bed. Thats what my guts telling me to do right now


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