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WW/WAW logic - lesson 237

I arrive home late from work, due to a meeting running over at work. I don't tell W, but come in to watch the kids as their bath has been run. I have bath and come down to have some food.

W goes to bath. W texts SD to ask, in secret, why I was late coming home, so that SD could text W the answer!

Ah, the logic of it all!


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To us that shows she is interested in what you are up to. To us that is not logical if she doesn't give a damn about you. But that is to us. She has her own way of looking at things.

I hope your new apartment has a bath. Otherwise it will be just too much of a lifestyle change!!!! Haha. The W is one thing but you cannot do without your bath!


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Oh, yeah. I don't do showers. I'm old school - it has to be a bath, at least once a day!


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Funny, something similar happened to me the other day. S10's childminder came to see me to drop some stuff off S10 had left behind. We had a chat for a bit. Next morning the childminder ran out to the car to let me know that the Ex wanted to 'come round' for a chat as she got wind that the child minder and I had been speaking because 'NDY doesn't talk to anybody about this'.

She'll be disappointed as all we discussed was me securing a place for S10 and what I can do to stabilise his life but it just goes to show they still want to know what we are up to.


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Hi NDY

Hope you're doing OK. I just don't get it. They want you gone out of their lives, then when you finally drop the rope and start pulling away, they seem really interested in your whereabouts and what you're up to. Jealous? Thinking that our lives didn't come to an end, to hard for them to bare? WW/WAW logic. Now if I could write a book figuring that out......


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Hi mate, I'm doing ok

Sandi2 near enough did write a book and I still can't figure it out.


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Yes, the blessed sandi2. That woman would be a millionaire if she charged for the gold she gives out here.


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My S went swimming for the first time yesterday at school. Autistic children find it difficult to maintain the coordination that swimming requires.

My W showed me the pictures when I came home from work. No warmth, but at least she had the decency to share the pictures with me. I may, however, have made a mistake. I queried if he was going to swimming every week and if there was a cost. Now, I was asking about the cost, because I wanted to make sure there was enough money for him to go. My W, however, made a sarcastic remark about it 'not costing anything'. I didn't say anything, as that wasn't my meaning, and instead I just spent the next few minutes congratulating my S on his achievements.

The lesson is, you can never satisfy a WW/WAW until they have made their mind up to come out of the fog.


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"The lesson is, you can never satisfy a WW/WAW until they have made their mind up to come out of the fog."

Amen Brother



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Quote:
The lesson is, you can never satisfy a WW/WAW until they have made their mind up to come out of the fog.


I genuinely believe she will start to feel the loss once you two aren't living together. It may take her months and it doesn't interfere with your plans but I can sense it.

My WW just emailed me about the cable tv and, this is the best bit, she's going to hospital and I can get her on her mobile phone if I need her. Wtf?


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