You both are right. I could have Not texted him. I just panic when I see vomit. I can't handle it. But next time I will not text him. I'll show him what a mother should look like not like the ow who doesn't care about her kid. Oh I know for sure he will feel left out. He wants me to call or text everything about the kids.
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
You both are right. I could have Not texted him. I just panic when I see vomit. I can't handle it. But next time I will not text him. I'll show him what a mother should look like not like the ow who doesn't care about her kid. Oh I know for sure he will feel left out. He wants me to call or text everything about the kids.
You dont want to "show him". You just want to do it. For you. Not to beat OW. Not to show H what hes missing.
Exactly. Not literally to show him but he'll see it. He is very observant. I can't stop thinking about last night. I should not have text him... now I look like I'm weak and I need him... but one mess up won't hold me back. I do have this A. I do!!!! Thank you so much for all your inputs.... even if it's harsh for me to read I need these to remind me of who I am. How lost I have been and how dependent I am of him. I never was dependent on anyone before I met him. So I NEED TO Pick Up WHERE I Left OFF AND Get On track. My self esteem book is great. It's helping so much and I'm only in the beginning chapters...
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
O - I totally agree with Azz's revised post. If you were dependent before then it is a 180 for you to handle things on your own now. I on the other hand was too independent before so I do the opposite. If my S4 was as sick as your D3 last night then I would have texted "FYI S is very sick, may have to take him to the doctor". That is it. A very formal FYI type of message. Now that I have started doing that it usually sparks a convo with H when before I would get nothing from him. I am only telling you this because you will begin to see that these little changes will make a difference. It is okay that you messed up this time. You won't next time and that is important. Even if you do, try, try again. You got this! Being a single Mom is the hardest thing I have done but also the MOST rewarding.
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
Some 180 I have done have been commented on by H. He'll say wow I wish you did this before or wow why couldn't you be do it this was then... so yes 180s are noticed by the h.
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
