Hi A. So he filed the docs last month but hasn't served me yet. I think it's time I look for a place to move out too. I really need to stop calling and asking him for help. Last night I was so sick from stomach ache I kept calling him for help. I was almost going to the hospital. I hated that I had to call him for help. Do I ask him for the papers already? I am using this time to fix me. I don't know how to brake from him. I'm so obsessed with him.
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
Yes I can. I usually do. I think it would be easier if he completely moved out. Since he still has his stuff here its harder. How can I tell hhim it's time for him to move out?
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
Let him know it's time for him to move out. Tell him this isn't working for you any more. Let him know that he can come get his stuff up until a date in two weeks time. After that, you'll pack it up and have it delivered to him.
Overcom, why do you want to stay so close to someone when it is causing you such misery right now? Have you read any information on codependency? Many posters recomment Codependent no more and there is an associated work book too. If you think about what you can control - you don't get to control H's poor behaviour - but you do get to control whether you are in contact with him and whether you spend time with him.
Please try and take some steps yourself to improve your own wellbeing and put in place some healthy boundaries. H may not look after you just now, but you can look after yourself.
Take care xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I don't know how to brake from him. I'm so obsessed with him.
I am in the same boat. I can't do the same, either. I love my W dearly and want this marriage to work out. I try so hard to detach, but that is almost impossible for me as I find myself texting, calling, or emailing her. I think that comes from the fact that she hasn't given me a REAL reason for divorce. I'm just as lost.
I would like to say it gets better but after 7 months I haven't even begun to see any light. Hope it gets better and will be following along!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
