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I asked him why he got back with her after everything she did and wouldn't even consider a second chance with me and then that's when he was saying sometimes you have to follow the other head. And I was like what the hell dies that mean. And that when he said it. As o I'm convinced that this is completely over. He's really whipped on her. He knows she's got nothing to offer but sex.
And it's already been a yr they have been together. So I'm just giving up. I'll still dB but I'm don't trying to win him back.


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Oh ya he's like there no more such thing as causal sex.


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Hi A. My goal is to find a all women's gym and get into shape. Been googling diet plans for weekly to lose weight. I have already been reading a book with my son. He's learning to read so it's fun... as to meeting new ppl I need to give me more time. I'm still having anxiety with that...


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Overcom,

Take your time, it's ok you know.

Can I refer you to an Internet resource on breathing and centring yourself, it eases anxiety. It's called the half smile and serenity. You will have to add http:

://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/half-smile_and_serenity.html

You can try googling half smile and serenity. The idea is to use breathing, relaxation and the Mona Lisa smile to help you relax. Use it when you meet people, it's a CBT trick. Once you have learned it then others will see you as friendly and relaxed.

Basically, breathe deeply, imagine yourself in a lovely place- a beach, a mountain or elsewhere, then smile like Mona Lisa........

I use this technique all the time.

V

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What wonderful advice, V! In the meantime, Overcome, I'm here for you.


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V I'm gonna definitely google this when I get home. I'm always having anxiety. Thanks hun


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Thanks judy. You know I'm here for you too. I'll write you later tonight. On my way home from work...


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Hi A. My goal is to find a all women's gym and get into shape. Been googling diet plans for weekly to lose weight. I have already been reading a book with my son. He's learning to read so it's fun... as to meeting new ppl I need to give me more time. I'm still having anxiety with that...


No need to do everything at once. You have nothing but time.

Just lay them out, so you can follow the roadmap, and you will be successful!

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I'm trying slowly moving forward.
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I bought a new workbook today to help with my self esteem. Baby steps


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