Well....kids went to talk to their dad and walked in on him "with" OW. Yes that "with" refers to in the act... Guess I can change my status to OW confirmed! Omg. What kinda permanent damage is that going to cause????
Checked your kids ages...good news is they're old enough to think entirely, so permanent damage unlikely. Disgust with their Dad is highly probable. Breathe easier on this one.
It wasn't all 5 that went the oldest two and (unfortunately) the youngest girl. It's D who I am most worried about. She is sooo upset. They are all disgusted and have lost all (if any was left) respect for their father. OW is 20 years his junior
This is his problem, and he has earned the consequences.
Talk to your daughter. My kids are pretty naive, but they know the basics. Just let her know you are there for her to talk to. She probably won't want to, but you know she'll feel better with the reassurance you are ready and willing to help in whichever way she needs.
I am most aggravated with my H for the effect his choices are having on our children. Forgiveness in that area is going to be tough.
Your H sounds like a classic MLC'er, which is bad...reasoning doesn't work with them. Ugh!
Sometimes, losing secret and exciting status starts to unravel the whole ball of ick. Consequences, explanations, etc. can take the "fun" out of the A. I truly hope that starts happening.
Thanks Judy. I'm hoping too. I always knew they were together but he continued to deny it. He didn't want to "be the bad guy". D is really good at expressing her feelings we talked some and now she is out with friends but texting for reassurance. Oldest is stunned and says he is "done" with his dad. I totally agree with the MLC diagnosis. He just doesn't see it He keeps insisting the kids are fine and he thought it was getting easier for them. (that's cause he never sees them so he wouldn't know). How are your kids doing!
I'm worried it will be other way around. She was daddy's little girl and she feels completely rejected by him. h is more concerned about protecting OW than looking after emotional needs of his own children
