I wouldn't leave the house at all on Saturday if I were you. My suspicious are deeply aroused when you say that they live 460 miles away and they're coming just for the day??
Something isn't right in Denmark.
I'd still try to wrangle up some friends to hang out at home just to have witness around in case things go haywire with W and her cavalry. Take a look at Bob's thread to see what I mean here. Many WASes have this mindset that they can just waltz in and take things out of the marital unfettered without concern for the LBS' feelings about certain items that may have been handed down by that side of the family.
Crazy stuff happens when you learn that the WASes and their posse come to the house unannounced or do this on the sly.
Keep your eyes wide open. Stay calm. Keep your cool.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
It's just a thought, but is there a particular job that needs doing around the house or garden? Maybe if you asked a friend over to help with that job on that day? You could greet the family, but then get on with your 'job' with your friend helping - without it looking as though your are hanging around the house with a mate...
Just a thought - otherwise - if you can pull it off, I would greet them all, say hi, put the kettle on and settle in for a chat with the W's folks - keeping excellent PMA the whole time. Is it possible they are passing through and not making a huge there and back journey in a day?
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
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Yes, woke up early this morning (0415) and couldn't get back to sleep. Thoughts going through my mind. Not planning on going anywhere on Saturday. I've checked out Bob's thread and see the trouble he had.
Did some digging. From what I can see, W has made plans for dental appointments next month (here) on the calendar and has booked appointments for hairdressing clients right through to the end of October. Of course, that could mean jack! W has left her phone out again this morning. I was in two minds to have a look through her messages to see if that could help, but decided not to snoop. Views on that?
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
My thoughts are that as long as you're prepared for them to sit for a 20 minute tea or for them to haul away furniture, does it matter if you know right now? It's not like you can control it either way.
You may want to list up all your furniture/valuables so that you can be cognizant of the value she would be taking IN THE EVENT that's why they're coming.
Also - didn't know you guys knew what a "mile" is.
I have faith you will manage Saturday well. Keeping a PMA and having good interactions with them could help down the line.
Regarding you and your wife's possessions, I have a different opinion then most. If and when my wife walks she can have it all. I will start a new life in a new land not weighed down by the past.
My daughter is applying to spend the spring semester at University in Edinburgh. The world is smaller then it seems.
Regarding you and your wife's possessions, I have a different opinion then most. If and when my wife walks she can have it all.
Youre not alone in this. When my W left, I pretty much said here's the list of things, you pick what you want out of it to make 50%. I dont have a sentimental attachment to any of it, so it's all just money to me. I think I wound up with a little over half, because shes the one moving to the small apartment, but most of my stuff (art, china, etc) isnt so useful. But....whatever. Guess OM will enjoy sleeping in the bed I slept in for over 15 years.
I know what you mean. Fresh start if she goes etc. I just don't like the idea of a troop of in-laws pitching up at my door, haggling over things.
I could be jumping the gun. Maybe my W has plans for a beautiful day together where she reaffirms her love for me and repents all her previous bile. There again.........
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Had to have a chuckle to myself tonight. W seems to be obsessed with the 'Fifty Shades of Grey' books. She's got all four and has, today, purchased the DVD. Now, my job involves a degree of planning, observation and investigating skills, so, I notice when anything has been moved in the house, added etc.
I noticed the DVD on the bookcase when I came in. W was out when I got home, but arrived back about five minutes later. Whilst I was sat on the setee, she calmly got a piece of paper, slyly walked over to the bookcase, picked up the DVD and hid it behind the paper, placing it in a drawer in the landing.
Now, I can't claim to have seen the film, or read the books, but I'm told it's 'Mummy porn'. So, is she researching, looking for that fantasy or just simply missing the 'lurve' and helping herself?
W has still said nothing about her family pitching up and she has contracted some sort of throat infection, which means she can't really talk. I haven't asked if she's OK, because I think that is pursuing, but I'm willing to be corrected, otherwise.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
