Getting a bit tired of all this, really. I don't know how to shift this forward. In house separation is hard as both of us aren't separate at all. Neither of us can afford to go anywhere, although W has the option of her parents, she has used that and returned.
It's our wedding anniversary in 9 days time. I am guessing that we won't be celebrating. So, I just carry on the never ending ritual of validating the spew, keeping the kids happy and keeping myself busy. I have resigned myself to what I am going to do when the house sells and W breaks away. I know where I'm going, costs etc. I don't want to, but I am organised, so that won't be too much hassle. W has made no preparation and doesn't appear to be inclined to, apart from another trip to the L tomorrow.
So, just journaling really. Nothing much to say. It's a bit of a blue day again. This really has to stop soon.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Hey huddy I feel for you my wedding anniversary is on the 22nd August so pretty much in the same situation I don't think we will be doing anything to celebrate
Take care my friend
Ghost
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
W off to the L today. Her phone hasn't been touched all weekend and she has only turned it on this morning. No calls from SIL/MIL etc.
Last night, although I didn't let on, I noticed her doing that 'sneeky peek' thing whilst I was cuddling my S. You can see she's conflicted. I guess the L will put a stop to that today!
W now has all four of the 'Shades of Grey' books and is re-reading them, constantly. I've heard it's 'mummy porn' so I wonder if I should read them to see if she is expecting some kind of fantasy to come out of the woodwork, or, she maybe wants to live that fantasy. Not my concern at the moment.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
W came back from the L's pretty sharpish. From leaving the house, to getting back in was less than 1h20. In that time, she had to travel there (15m), go to bank (10m), walk to L (5m) then 20m back to house, leaving less than 30m with L. I suppose I'll find out in the next couple of days!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
It seems you situation if very similar to mine. Only we have 3 children together. We are in the same house but different rooms for about 5 months. She took her ring off the same day she moved into the spare room. I have taken mine off and then put it back on several times over the past 5 months. I have decided to put on and leave on until the very end, if that comes.
My W is constantly on the phone with her sister. Her sister has called me and said that she wants our marriage to work out, but I have my doubts.
Living in the same house together presents a great deal of challenges. We eat dinner together with the children but our only conversations for the last week have been about money or the kids. In the past I have done all the wrong things such as beg and plead. This time I have made my mind up that I will follow the 37 rules as close as my situation allows.
You are not alone. Hang in there. I hear that it gets better in time but I have not reached that time yet.
M:39 W:40 S:10 S:7 D:12 BD:3/5/15 Separate BR:3/5/15 W moved out with kids 1/3/16
Yep, sound very similar. I never hear her say anything to her sister as I have been following the rules and snooping is a no no.
Compared to some weeks, this isn't the worst. Yes, there are really bad weeks, but at least I am now prepared for whatever comes my way. I haven't begged for months. Don't get me wrong, some days I wonder if I am doing the right thing with DB. But there are odd glimpses of light and I have my own self respect to think of!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Hi Huddy, I have only lived with H for the past 7 weeks and it is hard hard work. I hate to think how difficult it must be for you.
(((Huddy)))
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Difficult, yes, but I have my kids to think about as well. My workmates tell me I should just walk away, but that's not the point. I am fighting, just not begging and being needy and I'm prepared if W does finally go safe in the knowledge that I did everything I could do to save the M.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
SD has started asking if I have been looking for flats (apartments) or houses. Unusual question from her. When I asked why, SD said 'oh, well it's good to know what's out there'. I spy a fishing trip on behalf of W so respond with 'why? Has mum'. No response.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
W has brown/curly/wavy hair. It's pretty cool, however, she knows how much it turns me on when she has straight hair (she had this at our wedding). Blow me, I walk in the door and she has straightened it. It looks lovely. I, however, have to act as if I don't notice. Non persual. I can't tell her.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
