That's interesting. W is in trouble! Not gonna tell her though, she's a big girl. I sneakingly think she already knows this as she has made no further progress in locating property either here or back in Yorkshire.
There's always Premier Inn of course!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Yea, I agree. Let her figure it our herself. That's why I stepped back when the WW announced she was going to look at a flat. I knew what would happen before she did. But I kept my mouth shut. It's none of my business anymore what she gets up to.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Hey mate. Thumbs on the train. I can't wait for my mrs to leave the house. M is done. Will just make life so much easier for me. Even just logistics let alone moving on.
Word on the L sitch- here law is if either party wants to change custody sit ch, they need court permission. Technically this applies to custody sitch as recognise by court BUt our was mediated and has existed for 6 months PLUS her formal response stated she wants to Maintain 50/50. So onus is on her to prove that mo img. Kids improve their lives.
Hours after we formally called her bluff she was begging me to. Compromise. Before the judge tells her to get off her own pedestal. I declined. I really believe next "discussion " she will be apology like crazy for all the [censored] she swore she would never apologise for. And then ask me again to compromise. Blahhhj
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Hi py. That's good news. So she can't move the kids halfway across town without court permission? Good for the courts and good for the kids. I'm glad to hear that.
So yea, I recon your STBX will try and get you to change your mind. But it's not about her is it? She of course won't see it like that but tough. You do what's right for you and your kids.
Strength my friend.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
We guys. I don't normally post about interactions with the WW anymore because there isn't usually anything of substance to write about. This is slightly different. Cast your mind back to when the lawyers were involved and she 'threatened' me by not paying for the household bills. I agree she shouldn't need to because she's not living there so my L instructed her L to transfer all the bills to me. Remember also that everything is in her name.
Anyway I received an email from her this afternoon. I was busy so only managed to read it just before leaving work. Context as follows.
She has received the bill for the child minder and needs me to pay half. She also wants to discuss how much money I give her every month as she's paying household bills she shouldn't need to and she needs to pick stuff up tomorrow for their holiday.
My response as follows.
Yes, i transfer the money for the child minder tonight.
As for the household bills, I believe you received a copy of my lawyers email?
Happy for you to pick up your stuff.
Have a nice weekend.
So, she wants me to pay the bills but still keep control of everything. No way. Not going to happen. This should get interesting.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
She and S9 are going on holiday for a week. It'll be good for him. I know about the WW mindset. I want out of the M but I still want full control? Nah. Don't think so. It's my money and my responsibility so move everything into my name. Pretty simple really. But like I said before she doesn't want to do that because she doesn't believe I'll take on the house. And that may well end up being the case but little by little I will take control of my own life. She doesn't want to pay the bills and she quite right not to. But I'm not agreeing to her suggestion that I simply hand over my salary the way we used to when we were together. Not going to happen.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
He will. But I know for a fact he misses me when he goes with her because I play with him and get him introduced to other kids effortlesy. She on the other hand will lie by the pool and expect him to just get on with it. Ok, she will play pool and get in the pool with him every now and again but not the way I do. Still I hope they both have fun.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
