Yes, it's a journey they have started, so, they have to finish it. I walked home. W didn't text or anything. When I got in, the kids were there to say hello - great!
W has stayed motionless on the setee reading her book. I asked if the viewers we had yesterday had given us feedback yet. W just replied with a firm 'no'. So being non pursuing has got her back to being angry again. I'm ready for the spewfest to come. I can see it boiling up in her.
The key is to survive this stage. I can see she desperately wants to start a fight again. She's brooding and angry. Actually, she also looks incredibly beautiful, but that's for another period in time.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Ok mate so here is a plan. You know it's coming so be prepared. Drink that extra strong STFU smoothie now. Remember if she starts to disrespect you walk away. Tell her calmly but firmly you won't be spoken to like that. You will probably be on eggshells all night to keep yourself busy. Be like Clint. Get that picture in your mind now.
Post later and let it know how it goes.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I've just been whistling whilst running the kids bath. She's started to get stroppy with the kids, so I know it's coming.
Plan is to have a quick bath after the kids (one of W's complaints seems to be I spent too much time in bath) and then sit on the setee playing with the kids.
I don't want to appear rude, but I'm not going to start conversation with her. Wrong? Don't think so; I'm sure it's in sandi2's rules.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
So yea, be happy but prepare yourself for the spewfest. And as for convo's, yes it's in the rules.
But mate. She complained you spend too long in the bath? Now that's a classic.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Hi Huddy, I am at the stage where I am getting ready to drop the rope. However, I am still letting H actions get me every time. I need more STFU smoothies too.
NDY, You are right in that detachment is for us. 7 months since BD and I am only beginning to realise this. Actioning it and taking it onboard is another level.
I wish the lies would stop can't the WAS see that we know they are lying?
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Yes, it's a journey they have started, so, they have to finish it. I walked home. W didn't text or anything. When I got in, the kids were there to say hello - great!
W has stayed motionless on the setee reading her book. I asked if the viewers we had yesterday had given us feedback yet. W just replied with a firm 'no'. So being non pursuing has got her back to being angry again. I'm ready for the spewfest to come. I can see it boiling up in her.
The key is to survive this stage. I can see she desperately wants to start a fight again. She's brooding and angry. Actually, she also looks incredibly beautiful, but that's for another period in time.
Huddy, at least she wants you to pursue. See that as a positive :-)
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Also, her arguments with you are temperature checks!
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
New home = new thread! This is number 10. I somehow thought It'd be over by now. Hey ho!
Bathtime. Yeah, it's a problem when your husband wants to look and smell good at the end of a long day at work. Sure, when I had a really long day and our son had been up during the night with his night terrors, I would nod off. I was exhausted and my W had a chance during the day for a nap. I just think any excuse to blame me for something.
So, I had a really quick bath last night and when I came down, you could see W wanted to fight, but I played with the kids and in the end she went to have her bath. We never said a word more to each other all night.
I have some intel. My BIL was dumped by his girlfriend, as she was having a MLC and she then got back with him, had a baby, and then dumped him again. His girlfriend then claimed depression. At the time, my W was angry etc., but has now started talking to her on the phone. It's bizarre, she couldn't stand her, now, I guess because she agrees with W's position, she's her best pal.
Wanting to be pursued? I don't know if she does or not. The spew that came out in the last two days was particularly hurtful.
Onwards.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
They seek the company of those that agree with them. It's a common trait.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
True bud. Something has obviously gone off at her parents. She came back a day early; furious conversation with her father on the phone and now talking to a woman she really disliked. Probably got some medicine she didn't like and has taken to talking to anybody who will support her 'position'.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
