wife and i had a big fight,cause i found out she had been texting another man, she swears up and down its not like that. i know i am a person with major trust and jealousie issues. anyway after this huge fight she states she needs space and cant be around me so i leave. not 2.5 weeks goes by and we really dont have much contatct except about money or our 4 yr old child.we have been married 4.5 years together for 6. but she agreed to go to counciling which we did, she said she was there to work on our marriage or atleast try, then that night she was having doubts she said she was willing to try but wasa scared. im giving her space not really txting unless she needs money or about our child, she hasnt put any effort at all, im lost and dont know what to do, should i give up? i dont want to be without her but cant take this hurt, its up and down its killing me.why would she say she wants to try but wont im confused.
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka that I totally agree with.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.
It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.
is the house in both of your names? You do realize that in some states in court it can be counted against you for being the one that left the marital home, if it were to come down to that. Read on it, google it.
