No expectations. She might be 'having a new do' and coming home early, but she hasn't told me and their is no indication that she has changed her mind. Hey ho!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
So, slight air of trepidation as W is expected to return with the kids sometime tomorrow. Communication in the past two weeks has been minimal, so, I'm not expecting her to walk back in full of remorse and say she wants to stay.
W has had two weeks with her parents and sister, so I'm guessing they will have 'worked' on her. Don't know how to really deal with it all. The house is clean, tidy and all chores have been done, she just has to walk back in.
Just a journaling piece on my part. Nervous. Hmmm.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Those expectations and hopes seem to be creeping in despite your best efforts. Normal I guess but regardless how the return goes you need to stick to the game plan. If doesn't go well that changes nothing. If goes well don't be over enthusiastic.
Good luck. Hoping the best for you.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Roiste is right. Don't pin any expectations on tomorrow. Just play it cool and don't over think it.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Mate, she's not the queen. Are you always this house proud? How can the house be so tidy if your so busy GALing (wink wink)?
Besides. Remember the rules? If it's normal for you to do all the house work (which I suspect is true) you're still providing the husbandry services, even though you got the sack from that job.
Just a thought.
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Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Husbandry services. Maybe I should market that as a business.
House is tidy anyway. Just wanted it to smell fresh and clean. It does, but I'm using the same basis as if it was to re-attract to me - look good, smell good, look confident.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Just a thought. Could you be out when she gets back. Not waiting around. Again just a thought.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Just a thought. Could you be out when she gets back. Not waiting around. Again just a thought.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
