Thanks for the encouraging words. Nearly at the end of the book now and it's all starting to make sense. I now see how NC can be used in a different way to just 'not talking' - revelation.
Doing a small GAL event tonight. Onwards.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Your lack of posting is encouraging in a strange way. You are either busy GALing or things are smoothing out with you and the WAS. Either way I hope it's all going in your direction.
Let us know how things are progressing.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Your lack of posting is encouraging in a strange way. You are either busy GALing or things are smoothing out with you and the WAS. Either way I hope it's all going in your direction.
Hello Huddy!
I see NDY's point and it's a good one. Anyway, I just wanted to stop by and see how you are. It's been awhile. You are in my thoughts and prayers daily. I have not forgotten about you. I've been busy with work, my sitch and GAL activities.
Please keep a PMA, don’t give up and keep moving forward. We all care about you very much.
Chin up, mate!
Your friend,
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Thanks for stopping by. It's been a bit hectic at work etc. so not much time to post and to be honest, not much to talk about.
I have now finished the book and I can see small improvements in W. She no longer mentions D, has been saying 'us' and although still distant, calm. In reading the book I have to take it that things aren't going to be magic overnight. I am hopeful that when she goes away next week she sees this as being a way to sort it out in her head and return ready to do more work.
I have reckoned on not seeing much warmth for a while yet. Onwards.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Bit of a 'umm' moment last night. Annoyed with myself really. Story goes like this. D was ill last night. When W picked me up from station she told me D was in bed, with SD watching, as she had a headache. D woke about 6 and then I took her for her bath. All the while D was complaining of a headache.
About 8, D said she wanted to see W (who was now in bath) and ran off upstairs. I knew she was going to vomit, so ran after her. Luckily she made it into the bathroom, but just as I was getting there, W told me not to come in, because she was naked.
That's when I got annoyed with myself. I just kept thinking 'you're my W, what's the problem with seeing you with no clothes on. I've seen it all before'. I then realised that the past week and a bit of progress could be eroded if I went off on one. That's what's so annoying. I can't see the problem with me seeing my W with no clothes on, but it appears to be a problem for her. I just kept thinking that this was a false dawn and we were heading for D.
I know this is daft and re-read a bit of DB to get me back in the grove, but then it lead to a nightmare (first in about three weeks) and totally disrupted sleep. So annoyed with myself in letting my mindset go that way.
I have to keep positive, despite W and kids going away for two weeks on Sunday. I am taking the kids out soon for a ride on a train, so that should be fun.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
dont sweat it mate. the fact that you have so much control in the middle of the drama tellls me at least that you are a bigger man than you are giving yourself credit for. Enjoy the train ride my friend. thinking of you. -py
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Don't worry about it. I haven't seen my wife in a state of undress for a long time. Your W is just not in that place. Remember it's a marathon. You have quite a bit to go before she will let you see her in a state of undress.
Go enjoy the train.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
dude - i saw my W Thursday night after mid-week visit - and she is looking hot!! better than she has looked for ~10 years. Not naked though. salt in the wound though really. She is taking such good care of herself these days.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Normal behavior while the limerance has it's grip.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Many WASes feel separated from you and thus any personal-related stuff such as being naked is off limits. Yeah, it is crazy. But it is the way it is while the WAS feels "loyal" to their OW/OM. Craaazy.
