Dropping the kids off at the OW, you can state that you prefer that he not do this and you want the kids with you. Again, you don't want to do this too often. You would want to "train" H to respect your time by having some set schedule.
Hello and thank you for your advice Wonka, I think there is some confusion here, when I wrote about H dropping the guys off, I meant his friends. He was saying went with the guys to this, spent time on the beach etc. though H wasn't with his friends but OW.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Came back from GAL, h was in the mowing the lawn. H did not ask where I was and I did not tell him. Said how lovely the garden looks after he has mown it and thanked him.
However, he accused me of leaving cigarettes butt in the garden which I did not do and said there were others over there that were not mine. He was not too pleased walked away shaking his head. Not a 180 from me as I use to react in that way.
Both sat in the garden afterwards and chit chatted about how peaceful it was.i went into hot tub, H went inside and as soon as I finished, showered and came back downstairs he immediately said he was going to bed. It was barely 9pm. Said goodnight, no hugs, poor eye contact.
Another day. It seems as more days go by the further apart we are compared to how we were when I got back to the UK.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
I think it is - mean I think it is over for you - you have already suffered the worst of it. From here on, nothing is going hurt as much as you have already sruvived.
Sorry, Py
I am not sure what you mean here.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Hi Smothy. WW accused me of moving her engagement ring the other day. I haven't seen it since she took it off in Nov. strange how their default position is its all our fault. Pay no heed.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Do you know who OW is? Sorry to say, but it sounds like a bit of revenge for your part in OM trilogy. I know he sanctioned it, but to me, this seems like the elephant in the room.
Maybe a vet would like to chime in here, but this seems like the real bone of the problem here. If we can solve this problem, can it be moved forward?
I don't know who she is but know her name, seen a photograph and knows she used to work with him. H says it is the emotional abuse I gave him not just me with OM. H did ask me if I have been with anyone in the last 6 months, the evening he told me he was once besotted with me now he hates me.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Forgot to say, when we chi chatted I apologised about reacting to what he said re cigarette butts but I did not want him to think I was lying about it.
He just sighed and said ok.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
I think it is - mean I think it is over for you - you have already suffered the worst of it. From here on, nothing is going hurt as much as you have already sruvived.
Sorry, Py
I am not sure what you mean here.
From earlier post. Zeus told me once that his IC told him that usually people aren't so afraid of the event actually occurring, but rather that they won't be able to handle it. Pausing to reflect on my state of mind I think this is true. And i think you are in the same boat here. The worst has already happened. And we survived.
It makes it a little less scary, what you think might be about to happen, or anxious re: H and OW texting etc. You have already been through the worst of it. Whatever happens possibly won't be nice, but at least you KNOW that you can handle it.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
DS asked if we can have dinner together tonight. I need to ask H about this and thinking of texting him.......DS would like us all to have dinner tonight. Are you OK with this?
Btw DS has not been informed our D yet. Yesterday he came into the garden to show us his new clothes for his new job, H and I both gave him some advice re tie to wear with his suit etc. H said he does not want to tell DS yet with his new job and wanted him to enjoy his summer holiday. Says he will speak to him himself when I leave. I think DS should know ASAP.
Any advice thoughts on this?
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
