PY, it is good to hear you are finding some peace in your situation,
Until LBS detach and let go this is hard to find. I am going to a retreat today on spiritual self reflection and meditation. Your words have given me comfort. Thank you, so much.
hey Smoth,
found a few minutes. ^^^ excellent . meditation - the secret to success. saved my life on more than one occasion. the past few months being one of them. Honestly, detachment, letting go, meditation - they are the same thing.
Let me know how you go.
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M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Got back from retreat, H already home and saw he already drunk half a bottle of wine and into a second series of G of T. Did not expect him to be home.
Very pleased with my self, came in breezy. h asked me if I had a nice day, I said yes, did you. He replied yes and I said 'Good' left it there no queries, no questions just PMA.
Joined him of sofa, no touching, hand holding today, H fell asleep on the sofa. Went to bed with no hugs, just a goodnight.
Let myself down at one point as H wanted to stretch his legs out but was reluctant to , I told him I wasn't going to touch him if he did. Poor move on my part.
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Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Retreat was good, Mike George was the speaker. He was very good and talked a lot about how our thoughts and feelings lead to our behaviours/actions and we can control those but nothing else. And in order to control these we must come from the place of self love and peace. He also talked about the only thing we can do is influence others actions. I thought very similar to so e DB advice.
Found the day very encouraging and something I will think about every day. However, was unable to fully mediate as thoughts of H and OW kept coming to my mind with lots of unanswered questions.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Don't beat yourself up over these TINY things. You had a good day - on all fronts. Have another one tomorrow
See -
Originally Posted By: Py
Honestly, detachment, letting go, meditation - they are the same thing.
Dont worry if you "couldn't" meditate. I dont know how much history you have with medittion, or exactly what sort of meditation you were doing, what you were aiming for etc, and I am certainly no expert.
I just want to let you know, that no one can "meditate", or rarely. On the other hand everyone can, anytime. There really is no measure of "success". On one hand, success would be achieving nirvana, zen or even sublimating into pure energy. On the other hand success is simply do you feel even a little bit better, more centered, calmer than you were before.
I know what you mean about not being able to calm you mind from thought about your H. I posted on this a while back but am more than happy to have this discussion again.
Like I have said directly WRT detaching and letting go - it isn't important to achieve, just practice, guaranteed you will improve anyway.
Glad you had a good day (((Smothy))).
-Py
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
H up and about. Stilted conversation. Asked what I am doing today. Said probably go out later.
Had a call came through the house, phone was put down as soon as I answered. Redialled but through to mobile voice mail.
Unnecessary anxiety about OW.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
So hard not to react when he is on his phone texting! Especially after the above.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
. meditation - the secret to success. saved my life on more than one occasion. the past few months being one of them. Honestly, detachment, letting go, meditation - they are the same thing.